How Does Your Partner Feel About Your Love of Sewing?

This question came up in a comment a while back – how does your partner feel about your love of sewing? Or knitting, or quilting, or whatever your hobby of choice happens to be? Does your spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband, or partner encourage you to embrace your creative side, or mostly complain about the mess it makes? Do you argue about how much time you spend sewing? Does your sewing interfere with date night? Does anyone’s hubby take their blog photos regularly? (Does anyone’s partner sew, too?)

I’m really fortunate to have a wonderful Mr Sewaholic who encourages my love of sewing. He knows I’m happiest when I’m making something, or learning a new technique, or finally finishing up that second sock. I wouldn’t be me if I ignored that urge to create things!

I don’t know if he fully understands why I like to constantly keep my hands busy, as I’m just about always knitting when the TV is on these days. But he doesn’t try and stop me from doing it, and I appreciate that. For me, my love of sewing extends to clothing, colour, silhouettes and how it all relates to the image we present to the world. It’s not just about making myself pretty things! That’s a hard thing to explain properly but I think he gets it and knows it’s not just about making new clothes.

Although, he did kick me out of the second bedroom (nicely) when it started to take over what used to be his office. (Now it’s his office again and he couldn’t be happier! And I’m much happier too, now that I’ve been in my little office for over six months and get to ride my bike there and back every day.)

(perhaps this photo explains why I was asked to get my own office!)

And what’s even better is that he doesn’t demand that I make things for him. Sure, he did steal his Christmas present four months early. But he didn’t make me make it, I knit him the hat because I wanted to.

And how about those people that are only happy to support your hobby if they get something out of the deal? I’m extremely stubborn, that kind of guilt-trip never works on me! Even worse when the person has no idea how much work is involved in one sewing project. Someone I was not dating or related to once asked me to sew them a suit jacket and pants by the weekend. (On a Tuesday – although it doesn’t really matter what day it was when the request is so crazy!) It’s even more bizarre, when they think they’re doing you a favour – you ‘get’ to sew me a suit!

(back when I was working from home, he’d even help take blog photos when I asked nicely!)

So I have nothing to complain about. My husband-to-be (!!!) is supportive, encouraging and never demands I make him anything. He’ll even accompany me to fabric stores on vacation, and if I’m really lucky, he’ll help me stuff envelopes and build office furniture. Is he supportive of not only my love of sewing, but my sewing business venture? Absolutely! Maybe that’s part of it, I’ve made it more than just a hobby. I’ve taken my love of sewing and turned into a business, so it’s easy to understand why I love doing what I’m doing.

So I’m curious, what about you? Does your partner understand why sewing is so important to you, or do they just know to stay out of the way, especially when things start going wrong? Is your sewing habit a source of constant arguments? Can you only sew when you’re alone? Does your ‘other half’ wonder why you don’t just go shopping instead, and save yourself the trouble of making clothes? Do you get sweet-talked into sewing things for your partner, just to keep them off your back about the thread bits and fabric scraps on the floor? Do you end up doing their mending and hemming? Are they supportive, or just tolerant?

How does your partner feel about your love of sewing? Share in the comments, I’d love to hear what it’s like for you!

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99 Responses to How Does Your Partner Feel About Your Love of Sewing?

  1. Roisin November 22, 2011 at 6:09 am #

    This is really a really interesting question, Tasia.

    I’m really lucky. My boyfriend is very interested in and supportive of my sewing (and other hobbies, too) even though I’ve never sewed him anything. Sometimes I feel guilty that time spent sewing could be time spent on him, but he never ever implies that or indulges me in that. I took up sewing in earnest when I was ill a few years ago and it was one of the only things that made me feel good about myself, or positive about life in general and I think to him, my sewing is something that he associates with my getting better and getting back to myself.

    He’s lovely, too, in that he takes the photos for me for my blog – self-stitched items and shop bought ones, alike. I can’t imagine how different our relationship would be if he didn’t value something that means such a lot to me. It works both ways, too. I’ve spent more times in comic shops and watching Doctor Who and listening to jazz than I care to recount – but it’s the same thing – I have a respect and a love of these things now, because they’re part of him. I think he feels the same way about sewing.

  2. Gillian November 22, 2011 at 6:12 am #

    What a good topic for discussion! My husband is GREAT – completely supportive, and is always glad to see me happily puttering away on crafts. In fact, he even cleared out a craftroom for me in the basement when it was stressing me out to sew in the bedroom! He’s a diehard heavy metal fan and comic book nerd, and it’s always been really important to him to have a space of his own where he is surrounded by the things he loves. It wasn’t until I had a craft room of my own that we realised I am exactly the same – having space and time to sew makes me a happier, calmer person! (Seriously, I have an armchair right in front of my neatly colour-coded stacks of fat quarters, and man, I could gaze at that collection for hours!) ‘

    For us, it’s important to have a balance of interests. I can spend a day happily sewing because I know he is enjoying a day of comics and video games. If one of us was bored or missing the other, it wouldn’t work, but this way we are both happy. Does anyone else find the same thing?

    • Doortje November 22, 2011 at 6:45 am #

      I agree, it is more important to have a balance in interests, than to have 100% support, no matter what…

  3. Beth November 22, 2011 at 6:16 am #

    Yes, my Husband loves my love of sewing. Actually, we have started getting into the 1812 reenacting and we are making costumes for the family. My Husband is sewing his own clothes! I will need to make the kids clothes, but my Hubby is just as excited about sewing as I am.

    Beth

  4. Helena November 22, 2011 at 6:19 am #

    As Roisin says, it is a very interesting question. I think that, regardless of what you love to do, your partner has to be supportive, otherwise I don’t think the relationship will last long.

    My boyfriend draws a lot, so we share the same room, each one of us sitting at one table, totally absorbed by our hobbies. We share the silence, or some music, and sometimes we don’t talk to each other for hours. We can spend a whole Sunday like this (especially if it is snowing outside…) and we are very happy this way!

  5. Jodi Bonjour November 22, 2011 at 6:29 am #

    My husband has been awesomely supportive of my sewing. I think it is because he sees how much of a stress reliever it is for me. Now as it turns from hobby into small business, he is even more excited for me. Not because he begrudged the money spent on it, but because he has an entrepreneurial spirit and is proud to see me get into it.

    I can’t imagine being with someone who wasn’t supportive of pursuing my passions. From what I understand, marriages that lack respect are doomed to fail.

  6. Jodi Bonjour November 22, 2011 at 6:30 am #

    Oh, and yes, he takes photos for my blog.

  7. karen November 22, 2011 at 6:35 am #

    Hee, hee – great post! My boyfriend is largely extremely supportive and it’s become a ritual for him to walk into the living room and chirp, ‘Oh, look, she’s SEWING!’ The only times it’s caused tension is when I am frustrated or tired and start swearing like a trooper at something fiddly or difficult to do. A couple of times my language has been so bad that he’s remonstrated – and he’s not the type of person to easily take offence! I don’t always know when to walk away from the sewing and sometimes on intense makes I can get a bit obsessed and then he’ll gently suggest that it’s time to switch the sewing machine off. I do or don’t listen to his advice! I should say that blogging has been a great source of entertainment to both of us. He doesn’t really want me to make him anything, though, and for some odd reason he’s not interested in joining me on the sewing shopping trips I sometimes organise here in the UK. (Can’t think why not…!)

    • Roisin November 22, 2011 at 7:55 am #

      Oh, yes! I forgot to say that Nic does this too. I get sewing tunnel vision – I’ve seen myself putting in 15 hours at the sewing machine, and of course by the end of that nothing is going right and I’m swearing and crying. He’s good at telling me when I should put it down and go to bed, or do something else. He also brings me lots of cups of tea, although I can’t say I drink any of them!

      He’s never come fabric shopping with me, although I don’t think he’d be averse to it – he’s good in dress shops, after all. He did want to come along to the bombshell meetup but had to work instead, but I think this is something he’d do in future.

      Wow, ladies (and occasional gents) we have some truly excellent partners, do we not?! x

  8. molly November 22, 2011 at 6:35 am #

    I’m not really sure my other half understands why I like sewing so much (I don’t really understand why he likes video games so much…) but he understands that it makes me happy and relieves stress. And if I’m sewing then I’m not bugging him to get out form behind his computer!
    Although he is a little backwards sometimes, he has started buying me fabric store gift cards for my birthday but then complains that I have too much fabric! I just take it as him pulling my leg since he likes doing that too.

  9. Doortje November 22, 2011 at 6:41 am #

    I recognize the suit jacket story too! (Weird!)
    My BF likes when I wear my self-made garments but I have to be conscious about time when I’m in my sewing room (2nd floor) and he is at home. When I cut my patterns and fabric I always do it downstairs in the living room. On one side he watches me with horror sitting in the middle of the piles of paper, fabric, pins, scissors, all spread out on the floor, but on the other side he also likes my company!
    I think it also matters whether your partner has a hobby on his own or not. It is much easier for me to sew up a dress when he is sitting in front of the PS3 of riding motorcycle…
    As for the pictures, I’ve recently bought a remote shutter for my camera. Sewing up muslins by midnight is just not the right moment to ask him to take pictures, nor is the early morning when he is gone for work.

  10. Seraphinalina November 22, 2011 at 6:44 am #

    My husband is very supportive, but I think it’s a bit self-serving (in a good way). First, no matter what I spend on fabric, it’s not as much as he would spend on guitars, games, books and other assorted hobbies. I am generally really frugal, so when he sees me spending on fabric, he feels things are more “even”. Second, he wants to spend time on guitars, games, books and other assorted hobbies. If I’m sewing, he can do those things without feeling like he’s ignoring me. He also believes in the “happy wife, happy life” saying, and he knows that sewing is good for my mental health so it is in turn, good for HIS mental health.

    Pictures he is less helpful with. He will take them, but it’s quick and can feel like I’m bothering him, so I end up with pictures in strange places in the house. It’s better when I wear something self made for a walk and he takes lots of good pictures of me. This is particularly true since he bought a fancy new camera in August. Playing with the camera is fun, taking pictures of my clothing is kind of boring, guess which pictures I like best?

  11. Layla November 22, 2011 at 6:46 am #

    Great question and responses, I’m happy to hear so may people are supported in their love of sewing. I am too, my husband, always has something nice to say about the things i make, (even when i show him about 25 times and point out minute details!) and sometimes i even drag him into look and praise my students work! I think he is mainly happy because he gets the peace and quiet to sit at his computer for hours, reading and blogging without being disturbed! Although, like you Tasia, he has started dropping little hints about how my stash is taking over his office…wooops. As compensation i do sew him something at least once a month- a fair deal I’d say!

  12. rachael November 22, 2011 at 6:49 am #

    this is fantastic! i was just thinking about this last night and actually took some photos of my “sewing studio” (aka our bedroom). thankfully, my guy (husband-to-be as well!) is just lovely about it. i definitely straighten up in the middle of projects more than i otherwise would b/c i know it drives him a little batty, but he’s always supportive and even willing to give feedback… even though sometimes he needs to ask what he’s supposed to be seeing ;)

  13. Michael November 22, 2011 at 6:50 am #

    I can’t wait to have a my very own dedicated workspace!!

    I’m single and I live with my parents. Unfortunately my mother is not always supportive of me sewing. She used to moan and groan when I leave my sewing machine in the living room.

    “Michael, you need to find a place for your sewing machine and overlocker (serger). I get so embarrassed when my friends come over and see the machines and I have to tell them they are not mine…”

    Bless you mum!

  14. Tabatha Tweedie November 22, 2011 at 6:57 am #

    My husband is very supportive of my sewing hobby as he knows it brings me pleasure (unless it’s going wrong!) and he sees sewing as a valuable skill. I’m lucky that I get quite a lot of time to sew as I’m a stay-at-home Mum and my daughter has a nap after lunch every day for about one and a half hours, during which time I frequently sew. But when I’m itching to get more done or on some sort of deadline, Mr Tweedie will happily look after the little one for a few hours (in the past sometimes for a whole day!) to give me extra time to sew. We spend the majority of our evenings together watching some TV box set or other, but sometimes I will sew and he will read, or do a bit of extra work, and so that works out well for both of us. I mainly sew things for myself, but I have made sure to make my husband a couple of shirts which he loves and I’m really glad I did – apart from anything sewing shirts has improved my sewing skills, and I get a lovely feeling of pride whenever he wears them. I think he also approves of sewing as a hobby because the more clothes I make for myself, the less I buy!

  15. Bri November 22, 2011 at 7:06 am #

    I’m also really lucky that my beau supports my sewing 100%! He’s quite funny when he’s so amazed that I can take a piece of fabric and turn it into clothing! Especially recently when I took a ladies wedding dress and used the fabric to make her granddaughters christening gown, he was totally befuddled as to how that was possible!

  16. Rachel November 22, 2011 at 7:13 am #

    I am also very fortunate. My husband thinks it is great that I am able to create things. He is a surfboard shaper so he understands that itch to make something with your own two hands. He even asked me to show him how to thread the machine and do some basic sewing so that he could make a surfboard bag! He made about 4 when I wasn’t home! He does sometimes have requests for me to make him a winter hat that he may need but it makes me feel good that he thinks I am good enough at sewing to not be embarrassed to wear it and show it off! These requests are very occasional but I enjoy them :) He would much rather me sew my own clothes than buy them. Because he knows that anyone can do that and he understands how good it feels to create something of your own. I usually don’t ever have to tell anyone I made an outfit because he is always the proud one saying, “She made that!”

  17. Katie November 22, 2011 at 7:19 am #

    Like most of the commenters here so far, I’m lucky in that my DH is fully supportive of my sewing, knitting and beading hobbies. We’re fortunate to have enough space to give us both our own studies – I don’t go into his photographic chaos, and he doesn’t venture into my craft room! This way, we have space for our mess. However, we’re not always locked away from each other, as I bring my knitting into the living room and he often works with his laptop on the sofa.
    He rolls his eyes when I buy more stuff for my stash, although complains less when it is wool for things for him.
    We also share hobbies and make sure that we have time for our ballroom dancing.
    H

  18. Jennifer S November 22, 2011 at 7:19 am #

    We’re a lucky bunch! My husband is super supportive too. He appreciates that I can make a dress that fits me to a T, as well as fixing rips in his jeans or making him a flannel shirt that snaps up and also has enough length to tuck in and long enough sleeves to allow movement. He’s a bigger guy, and one of the things that makes me laugh is when he goes with me to the fabric store. He packs the fabric around for me, and also is game enough to help the ladies by putting my bolts back where we found them. Of course, this has led to many, many little ladies asking him where something is. Really, he is the last person I’d picture working in a fabric store – he’s a blue collar guy who also farms, but it’s really sweet when he can direct someone to the right spot in the room.

    He never says anything when he picks up yet ANOTHER box of fabric at the post office, and even listens when I screech at him about attempting to cut paper with my shears. Love that guy.

  19. Kat November 22, 2011 at 7:21 am #

    I am lucky to have a very supportive boyfriend. We recently moved in together and he offered up the spare room for me to use as a sewing room, and has put up a lot of shelves so I have space for my stash! He very rarely asks me to make him anything, although I did promise to make him an iPad case months and months ago which turned into a complete comedy of errors and is still high on my list of UFOs…opps!

  20. Katitarian November 22, 2011 at 7:34 am #

    He doesn’t understand at all why I sew, but then again there’s lots we don’t understand (yet respect about each other!)… and a lot of our relationship is learning to see the world from someone else’s perspective. He’s learning what I make takes time and energy and are important to me and is learning to ask after projects and ask to see pictures of finished creations. (awww!)

    I wish I could sew for him. I’ve purchased a frock coat pattern for him, so hopefully I can bit by bit encourage him that having a frock coat would be a good idea! About 3 or four years ago, I made his Halloween costume – Greek war hero from Troy. He even helped. It was so much fun to give him tasks and work together. (He was in charge of ripping seams. — we purchased old leather jackets from ebay and ripped them apart to recycle them into warrior attire.).

    He also helped me to create my dressform. I made the duct tape version of one. I use it all the time… I just need to figure out how to convince him to make a base for it.

  21. CGCouture November 22, 2011 at 7:37 am #

    My husband actually encourages me to sew. But, he grew up with a mother that did a lot of sewing, so I suppose to him it’s just something women do. I sew up stuff for him (shirts and slacks for work), but he doesn’t expect me to do that, I do it because I enjoy making something for someone who truly appreciates the effort and workmanship (and the good fit, which he doesn’t get from the store!). And yeah, he does request that I patch jeans for him on occasion, but I don’t mind too much, and if I’m really busy he’ll patch them himself. Yeah, he can run the sewing machine too, though I have to set it up for him. ;-)

  22. Lesley November 22, 2011 at 7:44 am #

    It’s great to read all these stories of women with really supportive partners in their lives! My boyfriend is the same – he knows that some times I lie awake thinking about sewing and pattern drafting and when some free time comes, he always encourages me to sew and is happy to give me the space and time I need to work on my hobbies. While he doesn’t accompany me to the fabric stores around town (although he probably would if I really wanted him to!), he knows that a vacation is not a vacation for me without a trip to a new fabric store. He’s never complained once. He never asks me to sew anything for him and wouldn’t even ask me to hem his pants (but I do because I can’t imagine paying someone to do it). So far I’ve only made him a lap top case, an apron and an iPad case. He adores the iPad case and always proudly tells people I made it for him. He doesn’t always inspect and admire my new projects as thoroughly as I want him to, but if I put things in his hands, he humours me with compliments like “Such lovely boning!”, “What an beautifully invisible zipper!”, “I love your use of the selvedge here!”, “Fabulous job on the placket!”. He doesn’t always get all the terms right, but I think he actually knows them and he messes them up just to tease me. He’s pretty great.

  23. Jessie November 22, 2011 at 7:48 am #

    It’s nice to hear about all these sewing-supportive men! My fiancee doesn’t sew on her own, but she will occasionally step in and help me when I have a lot of long, boring straight seams. My sewing room (which used to be our office! thanks honey!) has a small couch in it, so she’ll often sit and play video games on her laptop while I sew and listen to podcasts. It’s very cozy! She’s also incredibly understanding when I put a winter-hat-in-progress on her head, see that it’s a full inch too large at the crown, and start looking like I’m about to break down in tears. I couldn’t wish for a better partner. :)

  24. Marcy November 22, 2011 at 7:51 am #

    I have a supportive husband also. Whatever hobby I get into, except I told him he probably wouldn’t feel the same about electric guitar because he’s a huge tv watcher.

    I had my own room for sewing at our house, but now we’re in a small apartment. I definitely have to put things away each evening, especially so we can eat dinner at the dinner table, but he will go fabric shopping with me and he admires new skills I learn. He even helped me shop for a used sewing machine and a used serger.

    He practically covets both of the machines (we’re engineers) so I’ve been encouraging him to learn to sew, but he has ‘ideal proportions’ so he doesn’t have as much interest in custom clothing as those of us for whom shopping is a painful experience.

    Before I got into sewing on a weekly basis, he helped me cut out the pieces of a quilt as a gift for my sister who quilts. Talk about supportive.

  25. Tanit-Isis November 22, 2011 at 7:52 am #

    Ooo, this’ll be a fun one. My husband likes the results of my sewing, especially when I make stuff for him, as he’s got very specific tastes and is a little hard to fit. He does NOT like the time I spend on it, especially the fact that I’d rather be sewing than vegging in front of the TV with him in the evening. This is something we negotiate back and forth. He also doesn’t like the mess one little bit. At the moment it’s confined to a room in the basement he doesn’t have to look at, so it’s tolerable, but still iffy.

    I do like making him stuff when he wears it—and some of the shirts I’ve made him he wears to death—but he really doesn’t like for me to photograph it for the blog, which as far as I’m concerned is a prerequisite for having me make you something. So currently I’m refusing to finish some stuff I had started for him. I will probably relent before Christmas, however.

  26. Amy November 22, 2011 at 8:00 am #

    My husband is very supportive of my sewing, but also because it helps him out. He’s 6’3″ and has a 28″ waist, so i’ve become exceptionally good at altering mens garments to fit him. I do sew for myself, but it’s usually decorating items or alterations on my own clothing (when I’m not too lazy to drop it off to the little lady by the grocery store who does things for impossibly cheap). Oddly, the skill I’ve used most in sewing is in paying attention to how clothes are made, I can tell what is made well, and what is not, or add little reinforcements of my own.

  27. Jessica November 22, 2011 at 8:10 am #

    I have to say mine does sometimes complain about the mess of sewing!

    But he is very supportive ensuring I have time to do what I love by helping around the house and he takes my blog posts and lets’ me bounce idea off him.

    He also doesn’t really ask me to make anything for him but loves when I surprise him with new pajama pants or something – he even agreed to model them for my blog!

    It is nice to have someone so supportive – isn’t it?

  28. Amelia November 22, 2011 at 8:13 am #

    Congrats on your engagement Tasia, very exciting. I got my first Sewaholic Pattern in the mail yesterday, at my office, and I squealed audibly and then had to explain why I was so excited. My coworkers looked at me like I was a crazy person for getting so excited about a pattern…they just don’t understand. They are impressed that I can sew, most people are, but they don’t get the obsession and love that comes with it. My man is extremely supportive but then we don’t live together at present and he can leave my living room with thread strewn rug and fabric stuffed shelves and flee to his spartan apartment. He is an artist himself so he understands the need to be creative and the love that comes with it but I think he is amused by my “hobby”, finds it quirky and cute, but he is supportive. He listens intently when I rattle on and on about some new patterns I got or about the fabric I just ordered. One of my proudest moments so far was when he was very visibly impressed by a dress I recently finished for Thanksgiving I think he then finally sort of got it. On the weekends when he is over we put on a movie and sit on the couch together but I am usually working on something, like finishing seams, where I can sit on the couch and we can enjoy each others company, he doesn’t mind. I hope to sew him a shirt one day, he is so particular he quite likes the idea of being able to pick out the fabric and style to his tastes….but I’m not ready to feel the pressure for sewing for someone else yet.

  29. Stephanie November 22, 2011 at 8:18 am #

    My husband is pretty supportive. He doesn’t always agree with my fashion sense (the man hates prints….) but he likes that it make me happy. And he’s happy that my sewing stuff has migrated from the living room to the bedroom (one bedroom apartment so there’s not a lot of options) and he doesn’t have to look at it all the time. I don’t make a ton of things for him or really do much mending (like that tie I’ve been supposed to fix for months now….) but I did make him a monk costume for the Renaissance Festival and he loves it!

  30. Mrs Mike November 22, 2011 at 8:28 am #

    I didn’t re-discover my love of sewing until a year or two after we’d been married (I sewed in high school, but didn’t take my machine to college because I lived in the dorms). At first, he definitely did NOT get it. But over the years, when he saw how much I enjoyed it, he became very supportive. He bought me a very nice machine (at the time, $600 was a LOT of money for us!!) for Mother’s Day one year, and followed it up with a embroidery machine the year after. He has allowed me free reign of our walk in closet to set up my machines to have a dedicated work space. If I become stressed at home, he’ll even ask if I need to go sew to get some of my calm back! He’ll probably never understand why I enjoy it, but he understands that it’s important to me. He even tolerates fabric stops on family vacations :)

  31. Anne November 22, 2011 at 8:36 am #

    My boyfriend thinks it’s sexy when I sew! I have no idea why, but sometimes he encourages me to sew just so he can watch me. And it works out well when he plays his video games and I sew- we’re in the same room but we’re each doing our own thing.

  32. Michelle November 22, 2011 at 8:39 am #

    Wow, you all have such awesome partners. I was married, quite a long time ago now, and my husband hated my quilting. I did do it alot and he was gone alot hunting and fishing and it was something I could do while watching our daughter. But in the end I think it did us in.

    You all give me hope.

  33. elise November 22, 2011 at 8:41 am #

    I had an ex-boyfriend who decided to teach himself to knit after I started doing it. He invented his own style (seriously, he doesn’t flip his work over at the end of a row. Somehow he gets to the end and this knits back in reverse. It’s pretty amazing and had the bonus of ensuring that you are always looking the the right side of your work). We’d work on projects together, or I’d knit him gloves while he would knit me gloves, and by the end he was so proficient that I would simply hand all of my mistakes over to him to fix. It was wonderful. Sadly, I haven’t been able to convince any subsequent boyfriend to learn. (Also, when I was sewing my sister’s wedding dress, I was able to put him to work on the dress as well.)

  34. Alice November 22, 2011 at 8:50 am #

    My fellow *loves* that I sew, and I *love* sewing for him! He wears everything I make for him, and happily lets people examine his shirts and points out how the plaids match at parties (when we meet people who don’t know I sew). This weekend, we were making baby gifts for a shower, and he was helping me embroider! The man is a big and burly and there he was with me on the couch, embroidering baby appliques. So awesome!

    We don’t live together, and spend most of our time together at his place, since it’s bigger than mine. And has TV. Just in the last week, we moved my backup machine to his so that I can bring some fabric over and sew in the evenings when I’m at his place. I think that my belated b-day pressie will be a collection of the essential notions (seamrippers etc.) for his place. I’m really excited!

    The only thing that I don’t think he loves is going to the fabric store, because I’m never out in under an hour. I have to look at and touch everything! So I try to keep my trips to the shop solo, unless we’re specifically shopping for fabric for him. In which case, we’re only shopping for fabric for him.

    As for the mess, I hate the mess! I *hate* the threads and scraps and I’m always thinking of the best way (for me) of organizing and keeping it tidyish.

  35. wundermary November 22, 2011 at 8:51 am #

    My husband is somewhere between supportive and tolerant. He sometimes goes to the fabric store with me and does take an interest in my projects. He once voiced that he would like to learn to sew. But, he did it when I was in a crunch, trying to get some stuff finished for a fair I used to do. He was offended when I told him that A) I didn’t have time right then, and B) what I was working on was no beginner’s project. I’ve offered since and explained that we would be starting with something very simple. But, he didn’t seem interested, anymore. I think he mostly stays out of the way.

    I don’t sew for him very often. A few years back, I made him a set of pajamas and a robe. He promptly damaged the top buttonhole and the fabric behind the button by pulling the top off over his head and running it through the wash buttoned up. They required quite a patch and an ocean of FrayCheck and I rather angrily told him that I wouldn’t waste my time making buttonholes if he wasn’t going to use them! Basically, he’s very hard on his clothes and I think he’s better off destroying something that I didn’t make. It is a rare day that I do his mending. He was a Boy Scout, he can sew on a patch or a button! (Aren’t I a snot?)

    He does take photos for me. We both have done photography for years. But, he has a much nicer digital than I. So, he tends to take a lot of photos for me, especially jewelry projects. My camera just can’t handle that.

  36. Anne November 22, 2011 at 8:52 am #

    how great to hear everyone’s tales of sewing bliss. I think in my case its bliss as long as I’m not tryi :)ng to attempt to get him to wear home-made (at least not yet, anyway!)

  37. Amy November 22, 2011 at 8:54 am #

    My husband is supportive and also incredibly opinionated about fashion so he gives me honest feedback on some of my projects. He really loves textiles in their own right, so he actually encourages me on in my collecting of unusual and special fabrics.

  38. Katie November 22, 2011 at 9:01 am #

    That’s so great that you have a supportive partner! My boyfriend is very supportive of my creativity and the space that it can take up. That wasn’t always the case in past relationships, so it is a huge bonus now. It helps that he is also someone who is always working on some kind of project so as long as I am doing something, my work isn’t seen as clutter by him. He’s happy as well that I want to make a living using my creativity and it has sparked in him ideas of how both of us can be self-supportive.

  39. Rachel November 22, 2011 at 9:02 am #

    I have two hobbies- cooking (which I’m very, very into) and sewing (which I’m still learning). My sweet husband is very excited about the first (he loves trying new things, and I love to try cooking new things, so it’s a beautiful combination!) and he is very supportive of my sewing. He thinks it’s cool that I can make things, and encourages me to be creative and have fun. He doesn’t sew, but he listens enough that he can say things to me like, “you should sew yourself a pencil skirt- you look really good in a pencil skirt” which is both a complement and a hint that he’s been listening all wrapped up in one!

  40. Claire November 22, 2011 at 9:04 am #

    Wow, seems like we all have great supportive boyfriend/husband/partner !
    My husband is quite happy about me sewing. When I stopped working, after we moved, I was very lonely and I felt so bored, so now that I sew, he’s happy because he knows I’m having a lot of fun and time is flying.
    Also, his mother is a crazy quilter, very talented, so he’s used to this mess, he sometimes understand what I try to explain him, and he likes to check if I did a great job (but this doesn’t mean I am ready to show my work to his mother !).
    But what I really appreciate is the fact we are having fun with our own hobbies, separately, and when we finish it, we have lot of pleasure to do things together.

  41. Carolyn S November 22, 2011 at 9:24 am #

    Thankfully my husband is totally supportive of my sewing. And he appreciates that I’m able to make gifts (baby quilts, etc) for our friends and family. He knows that I’m happiest when I get time to work on my projects, so he usually pushes me to make sure I spend some time in my studio. ‘Course it helps that when I’m sewing he doesn’t feel guilty about gaming for hours on end. :)

  42. Montana November 22, 2011 at 10:03 am #

    My boyfriend has definitely realized how much happier I am when I have time to be creative. He also seem to enjoy how happy sewing obviously makes me. It’s been a great compromise when he needs to study, but we want to spend time together, I’ll sew, he’ll study. I also have read that many of you compromise based on your significant other’s hobbies and likes as well. This is definitely true. I am every so slowly learning to watch DragonBallZ and much to his extreme enjoyment, I’ve actually become rather good, and enjoy playing a certain video game with him! He has yet to take photos for my blog for me, but we are still learning about composition and how to not just *snap* and hand the camera back to me. Hehe!

    sewseam-riprepeat.blogspot.com

  43. Maureen November 22, 2011 at 10:12 am #

    Wow! It’s wonderful to see how many of us have supportive partners. Hubby and I have been married for 30 years and he’s always been more than supportive. When we were first married with 3 children, he was always amazed and proud of how well the kids were dressed and for how little money. When my first sewing machine died, he saved and surprised me with a used Husqvarna. Wherever we’ve lived, he always makes sure that I have a sewing room. I’m still sewing like crazy, but most of what I currently do is designing and sewing for community musical theatre. My husband is probably one of the best on my sewing crew! He helps me choose fabrics, cut out, serge and sew! (just don’t ask him to iron). He has a fabulous eye for fabric and colour, so I love bringing him to the fabric stores with me.

    He has now decided to design and make a shirt for himself. He had asked me to do it for him, but I have been extremely busy with other committments so he’s doing it himself! I sometimes shake my head in disbelief that my scientist husband is enjoying sewing so much.

    We now spend many evenings together listening to music and working on our individual sewing projects.

  44. Miss Crayola Creepy November 22, 2011 at 10:18 am #

    My husband is very supportive of my sewing, but I feel like others are not so supportive. I made one of my good friends a quilt for her new baby and she was not grateful at all, just tossed it aside like it was a thoughtless item, not something that I spent a LOT of time, energy, and money on. It’s truly heartbreaking when people are not appreciative!

    • wundermary November 23, 2011 at 1:58 am #

      I had this same thing happen to me, with a pair of reversible flannel baby blankets! This is one of the bad things about how common inexpensive goods are. Many people no longer have a thought for what actually goes into making something. I think things should cost more, so that we own less and appreciate what we have.

    • Megan November 23, 2011 at 12:41 pm #

      I can echo this experience with a baby quilt I made for a friend a few years ago. I think it’s true that the availability of cheap goods can make people weirdly blah about things. This is why I won’t make anything for my brother’s family – they are always complaining about how much stuff they have (because they take all the free handmedowns they can get) and I know that a nice quilt or blanket would just get lost under the pile! On the other hand, an artistic, sewing, minimalistic friend of mine is currently pregnant and I was all too happy to spend time crocheting a blanket for her – I know how much she will appreciate it. I have a bit of a policy now that I make things for other people who make things, and/or people I know appreciate hand work. Otherwise I might as well just buy a gift!

  45. Sarah November 22, 2011 at 10:22 am #

    My Mr. Friday is very supportive. He knows that sewing is a huge creative outlet for me and that I get quite crabby if I spend more than a couple of days away from my machines. He take the best pictures of me (mine are absymal) and loves the whole process. He even built me my own sewing/craft room downstairs – nicknamed Evil Lair by our daughter. LOL!

  46. Cindy November 22, 2011 at 10:30 am #

    My husband was actually the one who bought me my sewing machine for Christmas a couple years ago (although he was just my boyfriend at the time), so if he has any problems with my sewing he only has himself to blame :) At the time, he said he wanted me to teach him to sew, but about a pillowcase, a zippered pouch, and a pair of pajama pants, he declared himself done. Which is fine, because I don’t have to share sewing machine time. Sewing time works out, mostly, especially during baseball and football season; we can both do what the other person has no interest in without feeling guilty! Also, I daresay he likes that when I’m sewing, I’m usually just in my underthings because I need to keep stopping to try things on. That happens less now that I have a dress form, though.

  47. Susan November 22, 2011 at 10:35 am #

    My boyfriend thinks it’s great that I love to sew dresses and knit things. He loves telling people, “She made that!” But he also whines a ton that I never make him anything. He seems to think it’s a little selfish that I only sew for myself. So I’ve had to promise him a knitted scarf (which takes me a lot longer than sewing a dress does)! Or maybe a hat for winter. Not that I don’t want to make him something, but I’d feel more inclined to do so if he wasn’t always asking me why I haven’t made him anything yet! Nagging makes me want to do things less :)

  48. Holly November 22, 2011 at 11:10 am #

    My husband is extremely supportive of my quilting habit. When I was starting the Vancouver Modern Quilt Guild, we’d go for runs and I’d talk his ear off about quilting the whole time. He’s good a good sense for design and offers thoughtful opinions about fabric selection. He also braves the quilt stores and helps me buy fabric. And, this weekend, he took care of our kids for six hours so I could sew with my quilt guild friends! I feel so lucky to have his support!

  49. Trisha November 22, 2011 at 11:26 am #

    Wow–how great that so many people have sewing-supportive partners!

    My husband is also very supportive of my sewing–I get our spare room all to myself for sewing/art/craft-related things. But he’s not very fond of going fabric shopping or taking pictures. That’s ok–I have a tripod for taking photos, and he’ll occasionally go fabric shopping if we stop for a treat on the way!

  50. Lucy November 22, 2011 at 11:31 am #

    Mine’s an interesting one. He does triathlon, so when I decided to learn sewing he very kindly moved his sports gear to half of the spare room, sourced me a desk from his dad’s work, and set me up my very own little sewing area.

    All was great until he bought me a couple of excellent books on sewing and pattern making. I went through a ‘useless at this’ stage, so he started flicking through the books…and got interested. He’s a highly creative designery type, so the result is that my sewing area now gets commandeered, he bought himself a machine(should be thankful for that!), he’s making his own shirts thanks to David Coffin, and would like foot 70 for Christmas for making jeans.

    That said, it’s handy when I need help with something or want to use his machine for something that’s harder to do on mine. And he recently gave up most of a Saturday to help me creatively lay out and cut out a pattern when it turned out I was 70cm short! (we managed it too, I think he secretly went to Hogwarts.) And he ‘gets’ pattern stuff way better than I do, so he’s my go-to for adjustment help. It was annoying at first, because I felt like my hobby had been hijacked, but it has advantages too :-)

  51. Debi November 22, 2011 at 11:43 am #

    David is A-MAZING. He is so tremendously supportive of my hobby. He takes almost all of my blog photos (he is even getting into his role as photographer). He gives me feedback when I ask about fabric/patterns. He reads every blog post and regularly comments. He has even started sewing himself so that we can spend more time together….awwww… He’s so amazing!

  52. G November 22, 2011 at 11:43 am #

    Lucky you! I mostly hear complaints about how much space my sewing stash and stuff takes. He finds it “uncool” to have anything sewn or knit by me, but I’m good enough (my words) to mend. He takes pics for my blog if I ask but with so little enthusiasm that I’d rather use the self timer. Need I say more? My hobby is tolerated, really and if I wasn’t a strong personality, I’d probably have given it up by now. Fortunately, my daughter enjoys the stuff I make for her too. You are super lucky, really!

  53. Stephanie November 22, 2011 at 12:05 pm #

    Wonderful post! I’m single right now, but in the past I’ve been fortunate to have had boyfriends who were always 100% of my creative pursuits. My first boyfriend bought me a tool kit (filled with tools, including an electric drill!) for my birthday, and I still use those tools now, over ten years later =) I couldn’t be with someone who wasn’t supportive of what I love to do, which is create constantly… although perhaps I was more of a handful, shall we say, when I explored messier media like clay and stone (all that dust! Hehe).

  54. Clio November 22, 2011 at 12:08 pm #

    I discovered sewing after marrying, so it’s not a hobby I ‘came with’. And my Phineas is *the best*! He doesn’t complain about the time or expense or mess, and photographs me for my blog. He found great deals for me when I wanted to upgrade my sm and buy my first serger. When my stash was getting out of hand, I came home one day to find that he had bought me storage boxes and cleared out a closet. He’s even helped me pin fit at times and mark a hem. And when I run into a problem, he is very patient about letting me talk it out and even pretending that he understands what I’m talking about. LOL.

    I have sewn some things for him even though he’s never asked. He’s been so appreciative that, should he ever ask me to sew for him, the answer would be an automatic yes. I actually think he’s very proud of my hobbies – that I have interests and skills. I think it makes me more interesting to him as a person and as a partner. Just like his hobbies and skills make him interesting to me. I think having hobbies and interests – some shared and some not – is a good recipe for a marriage; at least it is to mine.

    Given the number of sewists who have responded that they have supportive partners, I wonder if it isn’t a necessary ingredient to really pursuing a sewing hobby or any hobby, really?

  55. Marie November 22, 2011 at 12:18 pm #

    My husband’s pretty good at spotting fit issues, though not that great about verbalizing them (“it’s kind of weird – there”). He’s also good at talking me down from sewing rages (“no, don’t cut it all to pieces, put it down and look at it tomorrow”). His computer and my craft/art/sewing space are in the same room so we spend a fair amount of time together.

    That said, flipping through all the comments made me think of something. I once dated a guy who had an obsessive hobby. Nothing wrong with the hobby (car stuff), but it was seriously obsessive. Nearly every night he worked on cars and whole weekends were swallowed by track days. What was at first really fun came to seriously suck. I was bored and felt neglected and despite being interested in cars (and doing some stuff of my own with them) ended up completely sick of sitting through dinners where that was all that was discussed. Maybe if I had been as into cars or had an equally engrossing hobby to spend time at things might have worked out. But I didn’t and I don’t and it really just killed things.

    I’m sharing this because I think it’s important to be able to step back and assess how much time you’re spending with your hobby. Husband and I have a variety of hobbies – some we share and some that are our own. Nothing, however, is allowed to overwhelm everything else.

    Who asks for a custom made suit from a friend? Oh wait, I did have a friend’s soon to be ex-husband ask me to hem 20 pairs of pants because “tailors charge too much and don’t do a good enough job.” Yeah.

  56. Beverly Ann McCall November 22, 2011 at 12:42 pm #

    I, too, have a very supportive and encouraging husband. It does not matter if it is a knitting project, a crochet project, a quilting project or a sewing project. He is my best friend so it is not uncommon that he accompanies to the fabric store or to the yarn store. He listens as I describe the project. He patiently let’s me use him as a measuring guide. He helps me figure out fabric or yarn requirements when I am converting a pattern to a different size or modifying it to a different style.

    He is handy with wood work so he made my sewing and cutting tables. He helped me relocate my sewing niche to another room and he even put up lots of shelves for me. He is going to help me by converting the closets into storage for my sewing things. My yarns and threads will be housed separately from my sewing room. I am truly blessed. We’ve been married for 37 years and he has always been supportive.

  57. Jo @ a life in lists November 22, 2011 at 1:40 pm #

    My husband is insanely supportive. To the point that when we moved a couple of years ago I got the biggest ‘bedroom’ as my sewing/working space, without me even having to suggest it!

    He is always complimentary of everything I sew (he’ll even find something nice to say about the disasters), and I seriously couldn’t ask for more.

    He does think I’m a bit bonkers though :)

  58. Lisette November 22, 2011 at 1:45 pm #

    My need to always be doing something with my hands drove my ex nuts! He was not craftsy or buildsy in any way, so he didn’t really get it.

  59. Ms. SpoolTeacher November 22, 2011 at 1:56 pm #

    My only little partner is a fury Little Red-haired Girl who just crawls under my table wherever I go and keeps me company (as you can see in this post: http://wp.me/p1MSTK-cV ). She’s a great partner and is just so happy that I don’t have to leave everyday to go to a “real” J.O.B. (yet)
    Your blog is delightful and you have a great following. Good on you. There are a bunch of us Sewaholics, this is so good to know.
    I’m trying to get a gig going here in my little town like the “Sew Beautiful Marketplace” Martha Pullen Co launched. http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.198303763582526.50887.162575887155314&type=3
    If anyone has ideas, let me know.

  60. Lesley November 22, 2011 at 2:01 pm #

    My hubbie was a bit embarrassed when he found out that I sewed, he was such a label man. A garment seemed to have to have a label in order to endorse it’s worth. The other issue is that he tells me that if I worked out how much the garment cost to make, it was cheaper to buy it. Its really difficult to explain to someone who doesn’t do things with their hands how good it makes me feel to be able to create.
    I’m pleased that after 20 years of marriage he has stopped complaining about the mess though! I toil away, safe in the knowledge that if we were ever in a nuclear war or washed up on a desert island, people would find me a very practical and useful person to be around!!!

    • jadestar November 23, 2011 at 2:58 pm #

      Love the nuclear war/desert island remark. I thought I was the only person who thought like this! :)

  61. Sarah November 22, 2011 at 2:34 pm #

    My husband is bemused by it, really. He understands that it makes me happy, he’s happy that I feel good when I’ve made myself or the kids something nice, but he doesnt udnerstand WHY it makes me happy, and anything to do with it just confuses him. The mess also annoys him, but since he never eats at the dinner table anyway, I don’t see why I shouldnt use it to sew at.

  62. Sophia November 22, 2011 at 2:49 pm #

    Love this topic. It’s so neat to see that so many husbands and boyfriends are supportive, too.

    My husband is very supportive. He likes to tell me how proud he is that I’m progressing in something I love so much and he’s always the one pushing me to buy more fabric when I’m being frugal.

    He doesn’t really request anything. The only big thing I’ve made him was a fleece vest and after that he said “you should make me another one, but this time I want to help design it”…because of course he can do better than Kwik Sew :)

    Sewing never gets in the way of our relationship. Mostly because I’m not set to any “sewing schedule.” I may want to have something completed at a given time, but I won’t put off a date night or other social activities for it.

    By the way, I just received my Minoru Jacket in the mail!!! :)

  63. Jane November 22, 2011 at 3:04 pm #

    Great topic Tasia and so lovely to hear of all the supportive partners. I adore the stories of the blokes who have started sewing or knitting themselves. My husband has said he’s a bit jealous that I have a hobby I love so much, and that can be done easily at home. He tried pottery, which he loved, but it’s not so easy to set up your own wheel and kiln!
    He chuckles indulgently when more fabric enters the house and was completely lovely when he guessed the amount (ahem) I recently spent on a coverstitch machine. He often uses noise-reducing headphones to watch ‘boy’ DVDs (things with guns, politics, Michael Moore etc) while I sew of an evening.
    I wish you and Mr Sewaholic many happy years together :-)

  64. Laura November 22, 2011 at 3:48 pm #

    My husband is very supportive. He does request that I mend things on occasion, but why shouldn’t he? After all, he needs a button on his pants. He never complains about my sewing mess. He loves when I sew for myself and the children. It doesn’t even bother him that I just decided one room in our house would be for my studio, without consulting him. I support his hobbies and interests, and he supports mine. That’s how it should be.

  65. liza jane November 22, 2011 at 4:01 pm #

    I started sewing because my husband brought home a sewing machine to make a tipi. Yes, he SEWED a sixteen foot tipi. You can see it here, if you are interested. It’s pretty crazy!

    http://lizajanesews.blogspot.com/2010/11/i-am-thankful-for.html

    Anyway, he is incredibly supportive. So I’m lucky. He’s an artist as well- a painter. We always have some sort of project going on, so neither one of us can complain about the mess. He definitely understands why making things makes me so happy.

  66. Grlandherdog November 22, 2011 at 4:13 pm #

    My husband is amazing, although he doesn’t have very many indoor hobbies – it’s skiing or golf for him. I have my sewing table in the basement so that when he is watching TV , we can be together when I’m sewing. I think that arrangement might change though, because sometimes he has to turn up the volume if I’m using the serger, and then I feel bad and try to serge slower. It will be harder to sew for hours if we’re in different rooms though, I’d feel guilty if I did it for too many days.

    He’s also become much better about the “mess”. I try to be tidy or at least confine the “chaos” to just one spot – he learned not to move my projects after plunking down the lace shawl I was working on – and the stitches slid of the needle :(

    He’s indulged my looking up fabric and yarn stores before arring in Paris, and hit every one with me, patiently waiting outside while I scoured every corner of a 3 floor fabric store, and we wound our way through unknown neighbourhoods finding all kinds of neat sights on the way to finding knitting stores.

    He doesn’t complain, tells people I made something when I’m wearing it and loves that Aran sweater I made him.

  67. Rachel November 22, 2011 at 4:25 pm #

    The comments on this post are really lovely! It’s nice to hear that everyone’s partners are so supportive (although i imagine if they weren’t they might not last very long as partners!)

    My boyfriend is very indulgent of my sewing, letting me talk to him about it for hours without complaining, and sometimes i’ll hang out at his house while he’s doing “boy” things with his mates and sit in the corner hand sewing/quilting. I’ve also recruited him as my official basting assistant when i’m pin basting my quilts as closing all the pins hurts my fingers but he can do it no worries :)

    I asked him this morning how he feels about my love for sewing and his response was that it’s good that I have a hobby, and that it also saves me money on shopping, except for fabric shopping.

  68. Daligula November 22, 2011 at 5:33 pm #

    I haven’t been especially lucky in this department, but they haven’t been lucky neither: I’m not with them anymore : )

  69. Becky November 22, 2011 at 6:05 pm #

    I’m glad to see that the overwhelming response is one of support. I’ve never been married, and I haven’t had a boyfriend for much longer than I like to admit. The couple of boyfriends I did have thought it was kind of weird, but we were all teenagers at the time. I’ve often wondered, if I ever do manage to get into a relationship again, what the guy would think of my sewing. So this is encouraging.

  70. cate November 22, 2011 at 6:07 pm #

    To be honest, it never occurred to me (and I don’t think to him either) that he wouldn’t be supportive of my sewing hobby. It’s something I love to do and that’s that! I’d happily make him anything he wanted because in the same way that I love to wear/ use handmade items, and provide them for my children, I would do the same for him. My one caveat is that he does his own mending. Luckily for me, this has extended to him doing our girls’ mending too! He needs help threading the machine, but after that he’s on his own. He’s even been known to make the odd dress-up for one of their toys. My oldest girls (8 and 6) also sew, in fact they buzz around like flies every time I try and sneak a little sewing time when they’re awake, so I think sewing (and making in general) is just part of how we roll around here, as is taking an interest in each other’s passions.

  71. Debbie November 22, 2011 at 7:16 pm #

    My husband is wonderfully supportive of my hobby. He constructed my sewing area in the basement (I can’t call it a room, but it is my own area) and is always asking what I am busy with, even though I don’t get round to sewing for him much at all!! My sons are very supportive too and my younger son, who is still living st home is constantly asking where his underpants are as he saw me buy a pattern for men’s boxers the other day.

    Hubby is also the one who takes most of the photos for my blog. I can’t get him into a fabric store although he has been known to drive me into Toronto ( Queens street) and goes off to a coffee shop while I browse!!

    Of course he probably has an ulterior motive, if I am sewing in the basement in the evenings I am not whining to watch something other than sport on TV!!

  72. Amanda November 22, 2011 at 7:59 pm #

    This isn’t in response to your question, but I just found this post neat because it brought out a few commenters who are single (like me!). Literally everyone I come across who sews is in a relationship and I’ve always wondered if there are other singletons out there hehe! Well, I do hope I meet someone someday who is supportive of my sewing (especially helping me with taking photos!). Maybe that should be in my criteria – good camera skills, preferably with a DSLR camera ;)

  73. Gail November 22, 2011 at 9:29 pm #

    He’d never say but I know he resents my sewing. He doesn’t have a hobby of his own, despite encouragement and sees it as taking time away from him.

  74. Kristin November 22, 2011 at 9:38 pm #

    Wow. It’s great to see that most people have supportive partners. After reading a lot of the posts, I can kinda see why mine isn’t quite that supportive. Most of the good partners have their own hobbies. My hubby doesn’t have a hobby, and he also suffers from depression. He tries to be supportive, but I can tell that because his depressed brain is wired differently, he latches on to the negative (like when I’m under the gun and frustrated at the end of a deadline), and ignores the positive (how absolutely over the moon I am when I finish something and it looks awesome!). He is also the type to wonder why I would bother making something when I could just go out and buy it. I’m glad I got a chance to read everyone’s responses to this question. It gives me hope that in time, when he recovers, he will be equally supportive. He tries to, he’s just not very good at it at the moment. :)

    • Anne November 23, 2011 at 7:57 am #

      This kind of breaks my heart because I know how it is to be depressed and lose interest in everything… I wish you and your husband well!

  75. Kristen November 22, 2011 at 10:00 pm #

    I’m glad your guy is so supportive! Mine too. Its funny, knowing I’ve got the support and encouragement from the person who knows me best kind of uplifts me to be more daring and free with what I try and what I do.

  76. louise November 23, 2011 at 1:51 am #

    i don’t have a partner but i have an ex boyfriend who is still a friend that was so excited and interested in me designing and sewing, he used to come fabric shopping with me, would listen while i cried over how crap i was at doing something (sewing was learnt as a sort of trial and error by product of doing fashion design evening classes) and was so proud whenever i wore something i made – even if he thought the garment itself was a little strange! i think it was just a happy meeting of two creative minds, talking to him imspires me :-)
    I used to make him trousers while we were going out, we’ve been broken up for several years at this stage, but he just recently told me he still wears them all around the house because they’re the best fitting trousers he’s ever had but he’s worn them out and some of the seams are going. that made me so proud and happy that i’ve offered to make him two more pairs with material i have sitting in my stash and this time i’m planning on surprising him by adding in more technical details like flatfelled seams to see if they’d be more hardwearing that way!

  77. Erika November 23, 2011 at 6:02 am #

    What a nice post, and so much fun to read everyone’s answers! I’m single, which makes sewing very easy =)
    My last ex (quite a few years ago…) and I met through SCA, a medieval society I’m involved in. While sewing isn’t his primary interest, he can certainly put together his own historical clothes, and do it very well. When we were dating he was a good bow-builder (archery. Not ribbons tied up =) ) and by now he’s one of the best. He does amazing replica english longbows! I’ve noticed that some people are just talented in using their hands for crafts, and he’s one of them. Wood, leather, fabric, metal, it’s all just different sides of the coin to him. So he was of course very supportive of my sewing, and even tought me a trick or two. Actually, when it comes to historic sewing, he’s more period ceoncerned than I am…

    Most of my male friends/my friends husbands that I know through SCA sew their own clothes – and a lot of them don’t start out that way. They often start with “Oh, but I can’t sew, now that would be the day!” and 1-3 years later they’re arguing how a garment can’t really be called finished unless the seams are felled by hand. Sorry, this is a bit off topic, but I find it food for thought that in an enviroment which activley encourages men and women alike to sew, approx equal numbers from both sexes picks up the needle. Are the men in the SCA really that different from men in general, or is it about enviroment, not gender? I feel a blog post coming on =)

    • Anne November 23, 2011 at 8:00 am #

      That’s interesting! I’ve noticed similar in the cosplay world- lots of men who will happily sew their own costumes, or if they don’t, they are at least very appreciative of the skills of people who can!

  78. Bella November 23, 2011 at 8:07 am #

    The roommate loves it; he’s proud when I make something & sometimes gets a gift, too! Which he wears knowing that he’s loved & someone makes him things!

  79. Amy November 23, 2011 at 8:30 am #

    My husband is wonderfully supportive of my sewing hobby. He grew up with a mom that sewed in her free time, so he’s quite used to pins on the floor and probably knows more about fabric than I do! Since I’m new to the hobby (just over a year now!), I don’t have much of a stash, which means each pattern I pick to make needs to come with a purchase of fabric. His mom got me hooked on fine fabrics, so we work together to set fabric budgets that are right for our meager income. The responses from others are all so encouraging. It’s no wonder this community is filled with such wonderful people!

  80. Jennifer November 23, 2011 at 8:48 am #

    I am little late to the discussion, but I had to chirp in that my hubby is wonderful about my hobby too. I “came with” the hobby, but we dated for 8.5 years and I didn’t discover sewing until about 2 years ago. He is so supportive. He purchased my serger for me for Christmas last year (before we were married), he lets me go to the fabric store (with just a little fuss sometimes because he thinks I take too long…haha!), and now that we are married and have purchased a home, he has let me have one of our 3 bedrooms for my sewing room. He is completely supportive of me having my own space, and is always asking me what am I working on and will come sit in the room with me and make really good comments on things I need a second eye on. I also am really into embroidery and am dying for a specific machine (it will be the third I own! haha) and he has said that he is supportive of purchasing it as soon as we have the extra money…we are thinking tax return time. He is overall really supportive of my hobby. He is really good about giving me time to do it. It also probably helps that he enjoys playing video games andusually plays that when I am sewing. It’s what he enjoys and I am happy to support him by giving him time, using our money to purchase games and systems, etc. He does the same with me and my hobby.

  81. jadestar November 23, 2011 at 3:14 pm #

    Wow, what a great response. I am amazed at and impressed by all the supportive/tolerant partners out there. And commiserate with those whose aren’t so happy :(
    I myself am single, but can identify with many issues here. While my family don’t mind me sewing/knitting/crocheting I don’t think they really understand my love of it. And love of understanding it. I love dreaming about projects, and planning them, figuring out how to make something. I mostly don’t carry through. This drives my sister crazy, and she won’t listen any more unless it’s a project I’m directly working on, in which case she is really supportive. It just makes me happy though.
    In all honesty, I rarely ever make things for myself. I’d say 90% or more of the time things are for other people. Most are gifts freely given, but I do understand about people asking for things without understanding the effort that goes into them. Or taking for granted that you’ll do/make things for them. :(
    To end on a positive note, I never thought it possible (this is no slur against men – just my own pessimism) to find such an understanding or supportive partner about my hobbies. I feel really hopeful now. This post has been really uplifting. I actually read every post, and I don’t always :)

  82. Mary in FL November 23, 2011 at 3:51 pm #

    Good topic! My DH knew what he was getting into when we got married because I made my dress and my DD’s dress for our wedding. He understands that my sewing mojo comes and goes, too! He’s helpful about my sewing when I ask him.

  83. Jane Elise November 23, 2011 at 6:35 pm #

    My husband is completely supportive and sometimes a little too supportive — ‘Go sew something!’ His mum didn’t sew and when he saw me finish something he was completely blown away that I could do that.

    I think the main thing, like others have said, is that he sees how happy sewing and all things sewing related, make me and he wants me to be happy. At times I have felt bad about how much mess I create and time I spend on sewing and I’ll say something like ‘I think I’ll pack up my stash and machine until the kids are a bit bigger’ and he is appalled at the thought. He says ‘I don’t care if the housework goes to b_ _ __ry, you should make time to sew.’

    My husband loves photography and he has a great SLR so when we can arrange it he will take me on a photo shoot and take great pics of my finished garments. I have to then take my turn to be patient while he takes 1000s of pictures and waits for the right light etc when I totally don’t need so many pictures of my new dress, lol.

    On the topic of fabric shopping, my husband arranged for me to meet him in the city where he works and then he drove me to http://www.tessuti.com so I could look around. He said he would take me fabric shopping there ANYTIME. It is really a beautiful place and has amazing fabric and LOUNGES to browse the pattern books but it kind of becomes the guy-hang-out place while their partner fabric shops (that’s a generalisation – it becomes the non-sewing partner hang-out).

    I am very mindful though to make sure that things don’t suffer for my sewing. I have two children and I take care of their needs first. If I can, I will involve my 6 year old in the sewing process. She has learned how to hand-sew and she helps me stick together burdastyle patterns. She also collects all the scraps when I cut out. She has a dinky little toy sewing machine that does a kind of straight stitch and she’ll sit beside me and just whir up and down sewing lines on scraps.

    My hubby tries to make sure I get one block of sewing a week, which is usually Saturday afternoon, when he takes the kids somewhere or keeps them out of my hair.

  84. Jane Elise November 23, 2011 at 6:38 pm #

    oops. bad link. http://www.tessuti.com.au

  85. Faith November 23, 2011 at 11:41 pm #

    My husband is amazingly encouraging and is always excited to see me stuck into something. I suffer from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and severe depression so just to see me actually doing something is, for him, really amazing. He is so proud of me. The only thing he’s ever concerned about is my spending my last pennies on vintage patterns!

  86. Ashlee November 26, 2011 at 5:05 pm #

    I just spent an hour (!) reading through all of these fabulous comments, and it’s so lovely to read that most people’s sig. others are supportive of their hobbies! I have to chime in and say that my live-in boyfriend is pretty darn fantastic. He’s a neat freak, I am a clutter-bug, and he is very patient with me leaving half cut patterns, knitting needles and yarn, and assorted crafting accessories all over the place.

    We purchased a house together this past summer, and he made sure we found a house with three bedrooms so that one of them could be a designated sewing studio. He helped me gut and re-finish the entire room and even worked for my step-dad doing construction labor for no pay in exchange for professional finishing touches from my step-dad!

    So while he may not be as vocal as some about my skills or finished items, I know that he supports me, and is proud of what I can accomplish – also – this ensures he gets the rest of the basement to turn into a “man cave” for him and his hockey watching buds :)

  87. Sofia November 27, 2011 at 7:43 am #

    I’ll get my sewing machine in the beggining of December, but I’ve already bought ten different fabrics and spent hours showing my boyfriend dresses and asking him for opinions, he’s just awesome, I think he understands how nice it feels when you’re able to make something you want.

  88. AnnaMayBelle December 30, 2011 at 8:01 am #

    When my long-distance boyfriend came for a visit earlier this year, we were walking through Wal-Mart when I remembered his mother had commented on a Japanese-style top I had made as part of a costume. I picked up some fabric that he said his mother would like, came home, and got to work on making one for her! I didn’t get it finished while he was here (when you only get 10 days with your significant other, who wants to spend it sewing?), but I can remember him watching me cut out fabric, absolutely fascinated by the process… He couldn’t wrap his head around how those weird shapes would make a samue top, but every time I held up a piece of cut fabric and showed him how they fit together, he was just amazed! He loves the idea of me making my own clothes, making costuming for him, or repairing his clothes. I’m a very flighty and artistic person and I’m so blessed to have an equally flighty and creative boyfriend, who’s so supportive of whatever hobby I happen to be obsessed with this week!

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