Do You Sew Things Your Significant Other Hates?

Here’s a funny question: have you sewn anything that your significant other hates?

Mr. Sewaholic stopped by the office on a Sunday, while I was working on some personal sewing projects. I lured him upstairs with small candy bars and then proceeded to show him the muslins I was working on.

One he loved – a little off-the-shoulder top with a side zip. It’s cute and fitted and slightly retro, so he was all about this one.

muslin of off the shoulder burda top

The other he really hated. It was a boxy, cropped woven top with ruffled sleeves. It’s definitely more ‘fashion’ and not typical of the styles I usually wear. He says something along these lines – you have a nice shape, why on earth would you cover it up with a big fabric box?

muslin of cropped burda top

(the offending shirt!)

Before he said that, I was iffy on whether I was going to sew it in real fabric or not. I thought it was super cool and modern, but not my usual style. It’s the sort of top that looks great with slim pants, so pretty much the opposite of my ideal silhouette.

But I sort of love it for that reason – it’s so different! And cool! And I could layer it over a white button-front shirt and black pants and ballet flats, and look very cool and fashion-y. With a top that wide, my hips will look super slim, right? The sleeves are the coolest part – that ruffle is fantastic!

cropped boucle top

what it looks like sewn up – gorgeous, right? Or am I blinded by the beautiful model and pretty fabric?

Part of me wants to prove him wrong, and make the most beautiful cropped boxy boucle top ever! (And wear it every day, because I’m strong-willed like that.) The other part is acknowledging that it’s not the most flattering look but that I don’t have to choose ‘flattering’ as the most important choice all the time. And another part knows that if it’s not a good look on me, I might not wear the finished garment. It’ll be one of those things that I put time into making but doesn’t suit my style. (And didn’t I learn from the last boxy, shapeless thing I sewed?)

So I’m wondering: have you ever sewn anything that your partner truly hated? How much influence do other people’s opinions have over your sewing projects? If you’d made it to the muslin stage and got a big thumbs-down, would that stop you?

See also: How Does Your Partner Feel About Your Love of Sewing?

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120 Responses to Do You Sew Things Your Significant Other Hates?

  1. Catie November 3, 2014 at 6:11 am #

    I LOVE both tops and would definitely make the “offender!” Haha is it your own pattern?

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:42 am #

      Nope, both are from the Feb 2014 BurdaStyle Magazine. The boxy one is the cover garment in the photo above!

  2. Tammy November 3, 2014 at 6:16 am #

    In the early 90’s, I made a paisley baby doll dress that I wore with black tights and doc martens. Very on point for the time. My then boyfriend called it “that dress that makes you look pregnant”. I wore it till it fell apart and he’s an ex. Because he was a compulsive liar not because of the dress. You have to make yourself happy first.

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:41 am #

      That sounds perfect for the 90s! Yeah, you have to consider the source of the feedback – is this someone who’s opinion you value on this topic? If not, who cares!

  3. Kerry November 3, 2014 at 6:23 am #

    My husband never likes my sewing plans….he usually fails to see the vision I have of a fabric turning into a garment. I go ahead anyway (good thing, because he hated my plans for 2 Cambie dresses!) and he’s always loved the finished result!
    I say go ahead on the top…it’s great, and will be flattering in a different way. You can always show your curves with whatever you wear on bottom!

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:40 am #

      Yes, some people can’t picture the end result, but can appreciate it when it’s all done!

  4. Susan November 3, 2014 at 6:23 am #

    Hmmm… I am a woman “of a certain age” and I wear a ton of things that my husband wouldn’t choose for me to wear, and some that he loves. He likes that I care about dressing, have fun with it, sew my own clothes and generally “dress well”. That’s what makes him (and me) happy overall, So I sew and wear things that I like, whether or not he approves, and he seems to approve of that philosophy.

    HOWEVER, I am very sensitive to my daughter’s criticisms (she’s 27). If she doesn’t approve of something I’ve made, I’m much less likely to wear it or feel good in it. It’s as though she’s noticed something about it that I’ve missed, and I lose my confidence.

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:39 am #

      Interesting that it’s your daughter, not your husband, whose feedback you really take to heart. Mine is my stylish sister. And Caroline is my voice of reason when choosing fabric. It’s good to have influences but not let them completely dictate your choices. Consider the source, when receiving criticism!

  5. Nakisha November 3, 2014 at 6:29 am #

    That boxy top made me so sad – but I am busty! I like you had visions of this chic little top…

    I do make things that my husband doesn’t love but I have to wear them; not him. There is a trio of dresses that I made last summer that just makes me giddy to wear. They all have gathered skirts and he doesn’t like them (even belted). Eh. I love em! I won’t wear them say, on date night, but I do wear them!

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:36 am #

      It’s easy to have fantasies of a certain item of clothing and forget about what we actually like to wear and feel good in! And after all, I don’t control what Mr. Sewaholic wears. I do give him feedback though which sometimes can get me in trouble. This weekend he had on a sporty 3-colour colourblocked top and I joked that it was sewn together from scraps off the factory floor – that did not go over well!

  6. chacha November 3, 2014 at 6:31 am #

    Mine tends to raise his eyebrows over fabric choices rather than style choices. I do hear you pain regarding whether to sew up the boxy top or not. Being pear shaped, I often feel overdressed on casual days and weekends and long for boxy, fluid, thrown on styles. When I do, I always feel wrong though so the hunt for a pattern that fits the bill continues. I think you should try the boxy top and see how it goes :)

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:35 am #

      Yes, you’ve captured how I feel about it well! I think I’ll look effortless and relaxed in a loose top and leggings. In reality I look shapeless and for lack of a better word, frumpy. It’s all those beautiful images on Pinterest of models in slouchy sweaters and leggings, I have to remember I am just not built like that!

  7. Mina Holliday November 3, 2014 at 7:03 am #

    I will make things my husband says isn’t a good idea and inevitably it turns out he is right and I won’t wear the garment. Still going to make it though.

    What pattern is that first shirt from? It is gorgeous

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:32 am #

      It’s from Burda Style Magazine 2/2014 (Feb 2014) – they both are!
      On one hand, sometimes the people in our life are incredibly observant and can predict what we like just as well as we can. On the other, it can bring out a stubborn streak when someone tries to tell us something won’t look good!

    • Sophie-Lee November 3, 2014 at 11:33 am #

      Mina I’m exactly the same – I don’t like to hear him say it doesn’t look good (he never really says it looks bad, he just gets this look on his face) but if I can’t convince him it’s good, then he’s almost always right D:

  8. sophie November 3, 2014 at 7:17 am #

    “You are so beautiful, WHY do you have to change that?!?” is what I get a lot. But fashion (and thus sewing) should not be about set formulas, it should be about fun, experiments and challenges. Being women, we have so many disadvantages (starting with having to sit down on public toilets and ending with no rights in so many countries), but we do have some privileges, and the most eye-catching is that we don’t have to wear grey suits all the time (just watch Patrick Grant “getting dressed” on youtube, it is quite depressing), we can hide/smolder/be serious/go all out just as we like. So go conquer boxy territory!

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:30 am #

      It’s a weird comment isn’t it? It’s like when someone gets a drastic haircut or haircolour and people respond with ‘I liked you better before.’ Not very helpful to hear things like that. Clothing is different, it’s temporary, and changing, and fun. I may not ever make this top but I will make the choice for me, not because someone talked me out of it.

      • Francesca November 4, 2014 at 12:30 am #

        I find that so rude and tactless. I would never ever say anything like that to anyone. I have told very close friends something like “I like it, but have to say I love you more darker/blonder..whatever”
        I’ve done what you’re doing, with and without out the benefit of muslinning before:). The last time I did it, it was a patern from schnittchen for a very cute looking dress with a sort of straight cut, dropped shoulders and an inserted cord – recommendation a fabric like denim. What was I thinking…. the gathers on the straightish skirt made me look so disproportioned. It’s the reason I never try any of those 50s straight skirts with gathers instead of darts. Those were designed for the 50s obsession of making hips look bigger. I love my hips, but don’t want them to look any bigger!
        It’s always fun to step outside of our comfort zone. just never in fabric you would really be upset about screwing up…..

        • Tasia November 4, 2014 at 3:59 pm #

          I know eh? I had someone say that to me, while in the process of going back to brunette from blond, like in the hairdresser’s chair! “You look better blonde” is super unhelpful when the brown dye is being applied as we speak. :)
          Good point about not using fabric you’d be sad about screwing up! Sometimes the thing that looks amazing in a photo or illustration doesn’t work as well on a 3D body. Sometimes you realize that the sample garment must be clipped in the back on the model! Experimenting is fun as long as we don’t let it get us down if it goes awry.

    • Renée November 3, 2014 at 10:15 am #

      The hairstyle comment is very relate-able. A change isn’t always about changing something that is broken or improving something, sometimes it’s just about trying something new and feeling refreshed by the difference.

  9. debbie November 3, 2014 at 7:29 am #

    All. The. Time. Hubby likes classic figure flattering shapes. I sew in line with fashion. He doesn’t always get why I like certain shapes and I can’t always convince him on it but he appreciates good sEwing and is supportive. I sew for me at the end of the day.

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:28 am #

      “I sew for me at the end of the day.” Excellent point! What is the point of our sewing hobby? To make things we like, to explore shapes and silhouettes, to develop our skills.

  10. carolyn November 3, 2014 at 7:34 am #

    Men! After I had my second child my husband kept complaining that many of the things I made were pretty loose fitting. Um, hello? I just had a baby! My clothes have stayed more on the loose fitting side since then and he’s probably not the biggest fan, but I’m sure he’ll get over it. Ha!

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:28 am #

      Ha, seriously! Bet if he was the one that had had a baby he’d be in loose fitting clothes too. Too bad it doesn’t work like that eh? :) Sometimes other things are more important than fashion.

  11. Noelle November 3, 2014 at 7:40 am #

    I love the boxy top! I think they can be flattering if the proportions are right – and the best part about sewing is you can make a boxy top that works for your shape. Clothes are one of my main creative outlets so I like to try new things. Doesn’t always work and that’s ok. But it’s fun to try something new – and sometimes it feels awfully brave!

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:24 am #

      I agree, sewing is a great way to try out new things!

  12. Maris Olsen November 3, 2014 at 7:40 am #

    I don’t believe my DH has ever made a negative comment about any of my creations, BUT I have made things that are not my typical style, usually with less than stellar results. It might be because I need more “practice” combining unfamiliar silhouettes with the right fabric, or retraining my eye to the new “look, but honestly, I think generally sticking to what looks best on my body is my preference.

    Idea: might be worth buying an inexpensive version of a “new, fashion-forward silhouette” and wearing it for a while to see how often it comes into “wearing rotation”. Id’ rather spend a little money at H&M, Forever 21 or someplace like that on something I am unsure about than waste my valuable sewing time.

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:24 am #

      That’s a really good idea, and the funny thing is, I wouldn’t buy this sort of top at H&M. I’d probably try it on and decide it wasn’t worth buying. Perhaps that’s my answer right there!
      I tend to prefer what looks best on my body, too. We generally like to see ourselves in flattering clothing and clothing that looks similar to other garments we like or have good memories of wearing.

      • French Toast Tasha November 3, 2014 at 10:18 am #

        Good idea! I’m too stubborn to go out and actually buy something I could sew better, but if you went out and just tried on some tops with similar shapes, you’d probably get a good picture of whether that’s something you really want or not.

  13. Suzanne November 3, 2014 at 7:53 am #

    I personally don’t love the boxy top, but if you have a vision go for it, so at least you can decide in the future if that look will suit you. My husband and I just had this discussion when I muslined the Alma top yesterday! He said it looked “frumpy”, but I didn’t think that at all, especially with all that darting! I’m going to make it anyway.

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:22 am #

      I always have a vision, I think that’s the problem! I’m able to talk myself into anything and make it sound like a good idea. With the Alma, fabric choice will make a huge difference, most things look a little frumpy in muslin. ;)

  14. Giselle November 3, 2014 at 7:53 am #

    Maybe this specific top might not find liking for a different reason than whether it flatters you. I think it looks like a top intended for a little girl. Some guys aren’t into the Barbie doll look and they might not be aware of why they dislike it. If you showed him this top in a fashion fabric and pair it with something very grown-up, he might like it better?

    I must say that I like the sleeve head shape, very intriguing, but I am not crazy about the box like shape. It seems a bit basic? And I would like the ruffle better if it wasn’t the same length all round but shorter on either the inside or outside (and quite a bit longer on the opposite side), something like that.

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:20 am #

      Interesting thoughts about this top – thanks for the comment! Perhaps that is it, the girlishness of the style and not necessarily the shape. I didn’t consider it to be overly girlish but now that you mention it, I can picture it on a little girl. Uh oh. Not the look I was hoping for at all!

  15. The Nerdy Seamstress November 3, 2014 at 8:01 am #

    Yes! It’s hard for my fiance to imagine how it should look. He says no, and I make it anyway. After I finish it, be ends up loving it. Usually, it’s the silhouette I prefer though.

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:18 am #

      Yes, I think we who sew have developed a skill of picturing the final garment, where people who don’t sew aren’t used to thinking like that!

  16. Marilyn Hardman November 3, 2014 at 8:15 am #

    I don’t understand why you should have to show off your body with your clothes. Sometimes its nice to show a nice body off, but does it need to be a requirement of everything we wear?

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:17 am #

      Oh, I don’t think you have to show off your body, especially when it’s cold out! It’s more a question of choosing traditionally flattering styles versus fashion-forward styles. And whether we who sew allow our family and friends to influence our sewing choices. It definitely isn’t a requirement of everything we wear!

  17. Beth B. November 3, 2014 at 8:21 am #

    I think my husband dislikes at least half of what I make. He prefers tighter clothing and I usually put comfort and fashion first. I try to listen to him about fit, because a second set of eyes IS helpful, but in the end I make myself happy. If you’re confident in something you’re wearing, then I think confidence is attractive no matter what you have on!

    I’m not so sure about the boxy top…I like the way it looks in the magazine but unless your fabric is very similar, it could go wrong easily.

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:47 am #

      Half of what you make – what a critical guy! Yeah, I listen to Mr. Sewaholic because I’m interested in what he has to say, and sometimes he has insights and points out things I don’t see. An ‘outsider’ perspective is good to have – as in someone outside the sewing world. But in the end, I sew what I want!
      I agree, I think fabric choice is critical. It already looks way better in fabric than in muslin, but that is also a pro photo shoot and not everyday life..

  18. Burke November 3, 2014 at 8:31 am #

    I have definitely made things that my SO doesn’t like, but I make and wear them anyway. Not to discount his taste or opinions, but I feel like women have enough fashion shaming already – magazines, instagram, fashion trends, etc. – and sewing sort of removes us from all of that and focuses on groups of garments: the ones we need to have (knit tees, jeans, etc.), the ones that flatter perfectly (the perfectly fitted dress), and those we want to have (that crazy print dress that no one understands but us).

    I say make and wear the blouse everyday. If you love it, that’s the only opinion that matters! And I agree – the boxy will make you look less hippy (which is why I wear big skirts to detract from my bust), and will look fabulous over a button down with black pants.

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 8:52 am #

      Yeah, that is a really good point, we’re always seeing ‘Who wore it best?’ and ‘Do and Don’t’ lists and all that junk. We’re constantly bombarded with declarations of what to wear, what is ‘out’, what is appropriate and not. With sewing we’re more free from that type of messaging, except for ‘what’s new!’

  19. Shannon November 3, 2014 at 8:43 am #

    My fiancé has no problem telling me what he thinks is a bad sewing choice for me. I’m curvy with a large bust and small waist so I already know a boxy option isn’t the best choice for me but I’m a beginning sewist so most beginner projects are on the shapeless side. I have been dying to make the Anna dress from BHL and he hates it. I think if I made the v-neck version he’d like it a bit better but I can’t get over how pretty it looks with the straight high neckline. So I’m going to make it the way I want it. Sometimes I listen to what he has to say about fit (that’s usually when I’m already on the fence about a garment though) but most the time I say f this I gets what I wants!

  20. Jill Sala November 3, 2014 at 8:44 am #

    My husband would say it looked frumpy becasue of the stiff muslin fabric. He’d say “Are you making it out of that?” I like the top and once it is made up using a more drapable boucle knit it will be fine and not “frumpy”. I personally prefer my tops a little longer but that is what is great about sewing your own clothes, you can take an idea change bits and pieces and make it suit your body and fashion taste.

  21. Jennifer November 3, 2014 at 9:05 am #

    Well, I did make one thing my husband really hated: menstrual pads! Erm…

    More seriously, I do notice that there very specific things I wear that he really likes, and he’s more ambivalent about others. I think his reaction to your two muslins would be similar to your husband’s reaction, and in particular I think he responds to styles that are slim at the waist and that aren’t too extremely fashion-forward.

    Well, I think you can wear what you want (and my husband lets me wear whatever!), but I do listen to him to hear the reason for his criticism. Sometimes he really has a good point. I can get caught up in fashion, in interesting detail, or wild ideas, but his taste is usually more down-to-earth and often more classic, and sometimes when I calm down from the flush of a new idea I realise I agree with him! Funnily, he picked out a sweater for me once that I would never have chosen myself, but I always get compliments when I wear it, so I figure he has some taste!

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 9:24 am #

      You made your own pads? Did they work well? I’m intrigued!
      I hear you on getting caught up in fashion and wild ideas, but end up reaching for more classic pieces day to day. (Frosting and cake, sort of.)

      • Jennifer November 4, 2014 at 5:00 am #

        I have been very pleased with mine. I used some old cotton t-shirts from a charity shop and made a basic winged liner shape. I got the pattern online. Without any sort of absorbant layer they aren’t good for certain days…but I find they work great for lighter days. I also find them far more comfortable than regular pads because they breathe just like cotton underwear. You can find lots of info on how to use them online, which of course takes a bit of extra work, more than tossing them in the trash, but since I only end up using them a couple of days a month (opting for a menstrual cup the other days) I feel they’re really suited to my needs. I haven’t bought liners or pads in months and I’m so glad not to have that hassle or expense any longer! Not to mention avoiding all the waste as well.

        • Tasia November 4, 2014 at 3:39 pm #

          Thanks so much for all the info! The expense sure does add up so I can see the appeal, and of course the comfort factor.

    • Lucy November 3, 2014 at 12:33 pm #

      Haha, I did that too! They were actually why I got into sewing – I still remember sitting at our dining table with my mother-in-law’s machine, surrounded by pad pattern pieces, with my now-husband skulking around looking horrified.

      Tasia: I think they work well! I got scraps of microfibre and PUL from a place that sells cloth nappy supplies. If you think of a normal winged pad shape, that’s your pattern. I cut out a layer of PUL and a layer of thin flannelette as a base. Then I sewed long rectangles of microfibre to the flannelette only – some I think I did two layers, others just one layer. Options!

      Then I got more flannelette for the top and bottom (and used the prettiest patterns I could find!) You make a kind of sandwich and sew round the outside, leaving enough room for turning. Pull it right way out, topstitch, sew some snaps on the wings and you’re done! They are quite bulky, definitely more so than the ones you buy, but I’m personally not bothered by that. I think it’s a trade off because the cotton flannel is nicer than the plastic-whatever on normal ones. To wash you just throw them in the machine.

      There are a ton of methods out there – some are quite complicated, I just used this one because, like I said, it was my first-ever sewing project. (Though if people ask, I usually say my first project was a handbag!)

  22. Catherine November 3, 2014 at 9:15 am #

    Here’s a suggested response for “you have a nice shape, why on earth would you cover it up with a big fabric box?” ……”Because sometimes I like people to look at my face instead”.

    The first top looked great for an evening out. The second top could be terrific for a casual Saturday with friends. Neither would be great for a business environment.

    But still, that boxy shape is hard to pull off. Good luck.

    • Tasia November 3, 2014 at 9:22 am #

      Love that response, Catherine!
      It’s interesting you should say that, because when I wear really loud prints and bright colours that’s exactly where the eye goes. Even when I look in the mirror I forget to look at my face. In contrast, when I wear a simple grey top, my face stands out. I’d imagine the same goes for silhouettes as well.
      I was thinking the off-the-shoulder one would be good for holiday parties, the type where you are mostly sitting down. Works with a black skirt or pants, and the neckline looks nice in photos. And yes, the boxy shape is hard! I took a handful of in-the-mirror photos and some are good, some are terrible, depending on the angle.

  23. Anna November 3, 2014 at 10:06 am #

    Lucky you! My hubby likes youthful styles that typically look good only on skinny fashion models – not much help for a middle-aged hourglass/pear with sloping shoulders… He rarely approves of anything I buy, nor sew! So I’ve found a style that I find flattering, but it’s a bit sad that he just classifies it as “boring office wear”.

  24. Renée November 3, 2014 at 10:08 am #

    Yes, definitely. I have a “house dress” that is basically a shapeless sweater dress I wear when I’m feeling lazy at home. My partner recently referred to it as a shapeless rag of felt and shuddered as he did so. I don’t wear it out of the house though and I’m not dressing for looks when I’m sick at home.
    As for boxy tops, I think there are certain times they work. I find that with my big hips, I can pull them off if they are quite cropped so that you can see my waist. If the tops hem ends at my hips I just look like a big rectangle.
    That said, I often wear things that don’t typically flatter for fashion or for a change. I also don’t always want to show off my curvy body at work so it can be an intentional choice as well. It always comes down to confidence and your own perception.

  25. Elizabeth November 3, 2014 at 10:11 am #

    Of Course!! But I hardly consider my husband a fashion guru :)

  26. Suzanne G. November 3, 2014 at 10:12 am #

    Long time lurker, but never commented before. This question has me smiling because of what I sew that my husband doesn’t like. You see, I have always loved onesies. The kind with the slipper socks, like Macklemore sings about. In fleece. Yeah. Because I hate to be cold, and they are so cozy and toasty warm. My husband thinks they are the most ‘unromantic’ thing I could wear. I just thought I’d share because it brought a smile to my face,

  27. Katherine November 3, 2014 at 10:14 am #

    I love both tops ! It would be great to see how the muslin for the offending top looks with slim pants. I feel that pear shaped women always have a slender look on the top regardless of what they wear. If you love it, then make it up. I am sure your hubby has some clothing that you are secretly planning on putting in the good will bin when he’s not looking.
    I am single right now, but I have had comments like “do you ever make anything that is not so colourful”? Ironically said by a colorblind dating companion at the time….

  28. Ally - Design Rewind Fashions on Etsy November 3, 2014 at 10:19 am #

    My husband doesn’t understand sewing – period. He doesn’t understand why someone would go through all the trouble to make something when they could just go to a department store. Then there is all the space sewing takes …which is another topic all together. That said, he has always liked what I’ve created. Now our two daughters are learning to sew so he is rapidly becoming out numbered! I love it! Power to the Sewing People!

    p.s. On his defense I should mention my husband is an economist – a numbers guy. Each of my daughters and I could be talking about a project and “see” that project as we are designing it in conversation. My husband can’t. Unless the project is right in front of him it may as well be on Mars.

  29. Ally - Design Rewind Fashions on Etsy November 3, 2014 at 10:20 am #

    pps – but we’ve been married almost 25 years so maybe the mix works :)

  30. Caitlin November 3, 2014 at 10:21 am #

    My significant other is very supportive of my sewing, and he is even picking up the terminology! He’s very proud of his sewing knowledge; it’s great :) He definitely will tell me when he doesn’t like something, and he has surprised me with all the details he notices (like the color of top stitching thread, or my zipper insertion method!).

    I will definitely sew what I want, but I respect his opinions a lot more knowing he’s showing genuine appreciation and interest!

    • Katie November 4, 2014 at 6:13 am #

      I was dragging my boyfriend round a shop looking for a dress and he correctly identified box pleats and knife pleats, was able to discuss top-stitching and hem techniques – he was so proud of himself! Apparently I talk about sewing a lot and he’s been picking it up.

      • Tasia November 4, 2014 at 3:31 pm #

        Love that!

  31. Jill November 3, 2014 at 10:22 am #

    There’s a place in any woman’s wardrobe for both tops! I do think you should tread lightly when asking a man…unless he’s a contestant on Project Runway! I always notice they like simple shapes more fitted than we do normally. My husband seems to like a more tailored look though and solid colors. Whenever he sees a newscaster on TV he usually comments that it’s a nice outfit or says,”That’s hedious!” The hedious ones are prints or bright colors. He tends toward the lux more refined look. He’s not a good one to ask overall. And sometimes girlfriends and sisters input their own likes and dislikes without realizing it. So….just go with your own instincts. I think when we have been sewing for a while we tend to hone our style more than just shoppers do.

  32. Lynn November 3, 2014 at 10:22 am #

    I love the boxy top! Sometimes you just have to step outside your comfort zone a little. Wear what you love, you only live once. And it’s not like its too crazy, it looks very wearable especially in a softer slightly drapery fabric. I’m inspired to try this same pattern! Good luck, can’t wait to see the finished product.

  33. Lou Sewcial Warrior November 3, 2014 at 10:25 am #

    what a strange coincidence, I have literally just been looking at the same boxy Burda top contemplating whether to make it up or not. Don’t think my fabric is right though and I’m not digging the frilled arms. I think it could be cut though. Especially in the boucle the pattern calls for- could be like an alternative jumper.

  34. French Toast Tasha November 3, 2014 at 10:31 am #

    My husband is an artist, and generally has good taste, so I do take his opinions into account, (and most of the time he likes what I choose).
    It’s interesting because if he is critical of something that I don’t care too much about, his opinion has more impact, and I’ll tend to put that thing aside. But if he doesn’t like something that I LOVE, it doesn’t make much difference to me, I’ll wear it, and usually get compliments from others on it too. So in way, it becomes a test of how confident I am about a garment. If I love it enough to wear it despite anything he might say, then I’m usually right that it looks good on me, it’s just not to his taste.

  35. Cindy November 3, 2014 at 10:35 am #

    I always listen to my husband and then do what I want! He will criticize clothes that I’ve bought but rarely, if ever, anything that I’ve made. He knows that I’ve put my whole heart and soul into something and he won’t take that away from me. But I don’t see why you can’t change the body of the offending top – make it a little more fitted with under bust pleats, tucks or darts. One of my favourite tops ever is one that is fitted under the bust and drapes out in almost a peplum kind of way, but not really. It’s Burda 7834 -I’ve made it 3 times, with another scheduled to be made in silk this time! I think something like that would work quite nicely if you had a mind to redesign it! And, I ADORE the first top!!

  36. Leila November 3, 2014 at 10:47 am #

    My husband saw me in my fitting shell and told me what a nice dress it was, so I don’t put too much weight on his opinion of my sewing choices! I’m pretty sure he was serious, too, not just trying to be nice.

    • Jill November 7, 2014 at 12:07 pm #

      Now that is funny! Actually my husband has said something like, “hey nice outfit on your sewing dummy”. When all I did was drape a piece of fabric around it and tie it with a belt! And he was being serious too. So I’m not ever asking him for input. If I’m making it, he likes it.

  37. Leigh November 3, 2014 at 10:48 am #

    I think that it’s good to get away from our “standard uniform” of shapes. I spent a year losing weight. Prior to that, I always wore certain things with certain shapes in certain colors. As I lost weight and my clothes stopped fitting, I needed new inexpensive clothing to wear to work. I went to a discount shop that sold over production from a variety of stores and pretty much bought a couple of outfits in whatever size I was at the time of whatever matched and fit me ok. During that time I wore a number of different looks, shapes, colors, styles that I would NEVER have worn before because I was stuck in “I wear B style in C colors because that’s what looks good on me.” I ended up with a whole new look, partly because I was slimmer, but mostly because I got out of my fashion rut.

    I think getting stuck in the “I’m a pear (or apple or whatever) so I can only wear this one silhouette and nothing else.” can be a mistake. It certainly makes your closet a bit boring. There are lots of fun clothes out there. Mix it up a bit!

    Regarding the top itself, I think it’s cute. Slim pants, layered look – very cute. If you decide it is too (boxy, short, whatever), change it up a bit. Nip the boxy-ness in just a little, or make the ruffles a little different as someone suggested. I know someone that puts just a teeny bit of shaping in the sides of her chanel-style cardis and boy they look great. It’s still the look of the boxy cardi, but that teeny bit of shaping really makes her look good in them.

    Experiment!

  38. Claudia November 3, 2014 at 11:06 am #

    Ha – I made that exact boxy top, too :) But I don’t have a significant other, so I don’t care what other people say ;)

  39. Mary November 3, 2014 at 11:07 am #

    I tell DH when he’s wearing something that’s especially flattering (and sometimes alert him to something that’s not) and I love it when he returns the favor.

    I wish my friends would do it too. It’s hard to see ourselves with any objectivity – isn’t that why people hire stylists?

    To your original question – if he hated it and I wasn’t sure, I might go for it anyway. If he hated the finished garment, chances are I’d hate it too. I love dressing in things he likes and it’s always translated to complements from others.

  40. Mads November 3, 2014 at 11:23 am #

    The off-the-shoulder top is gorgeous! I also like the second top, and think it would look great in a boucle, like on the magazine cover.

    I think most of us have made or worn something our SO really doesn’t like, but ultimately it’s about what YOU are happy wearing and that’s that! ;-)

  41. Hélène November 3, 2014 at 11:29 am #

    Great post, Tasia. This husband and wife topic is so typical. We all know that most men are moving slower than women along the fashion trail… That being said, I do love both tops and I hope you will present them in a post when you’re finished. I’m totally positive: the boxy one will look wonderful with slim pants or a long pencil skirt.

  42. nique et November 3, 2014 at 11:29 am #

    Yeah I never open an envelope or buy a pdf without asking my fella or a close friend who knows I need brutal honesty first.. Things like boxy tops/dresses are cute….on other people. I think it’s important to think about your time being worth something; it’s not like this is a $8 shirt
    from forever 21.

    • nique et November 3, 2014 at 11:32 am #

      What I said about boxy tops is for me personally. Im pretty top heavy which makes styles like that look as though I’m trying to cover up a pregnancy. Not a good look

  43. patsijean November 3, 2014 at 11:31 am #

    I have a weakness for boucle’, so that is a positive from me. Also, I noticed that the top looks to be only as long as the waist or the hipbone at most, so one will see hip and waist definition. I say GO FOR IT.

  44. Debbie November 3, 2014 at 12:12 pm #

    I have a good male friend who once described a jumper that I was wearing as ‘Goose Turd Green’! It was olive. It has taken me 20 years to wear the colour ( one that particularly suits me) again. He is slightly Aspergers so I didn’t take offence with him, just his comment. I too have made sanitary pads. They were very comfortable, but it is a bit like going back to nappies with a bucket in the bathroom!

  45. Lauren November 3, 2014 at 12:34 pm #

    Two halloweens ago I made a costume of Lollipop Chainsaws awesome hero and got the project all the way to wearing it the night of to go to a halloween party, (my boyfriend at the time knew what I was making and was excited up to that point) and my boyfriend of the time said I shouldnt wear it. I was devastated!! 3 weeks of excitement getting the chainsaw made and modifying a sports bra to look like her cheerleading top and making the skirt from scratch! I dont know if he didnt like the exposed stomach or what. I personally knew that I’m not the thinnest thing on earth but I had dieted and felt amazing until I saw the look on his face. I did end up wearing it and everyone loved it. Weither it was because I didnt look good in it or if he was just afraid of what others would think, it was the most hurtful thing for me. But after some of my best friends giving me the best complements I think he was being a nervous nelly.

    I love both tops the second is definitely not my style being an hour glass shape but it’s definitely a cute!

  46. Dawn November 3, 2014 at 2:16 pm #

    There’s a difference between preference and “control” when it comes to partner’s response to clothing. A considered opinion that isn’t judgement is one thing; taking the power of controlling what a woman wears, or mocking her choices is another. I’ve seen it in my family, and it isn’t pretty. So in my case : I’ll ask my DH what he thinks – sometimes – but I trust myself. —And if a garment bombs — I’ll know it, and it won’t last long in the closet—if it makes it that far. So I say — have fun! Be curious! Sewing is our art, our outlet, and experimenting is part of the deal. Go for it!

  47. Diane November 3, 2014 at 2:36 pm #

    I think you should go ahead with the “boxy” top. Worn over a form fitting T with either leggings or slim jeans it will look perfect. (And that should show plenty of your body, FWIW.)

    As others have noted some times it’s a matter of proportion. You may want to think about narrowing the torso just a tiny bit. I find that makes a big difference; I’m petite and have to shorten the torso, arms, legs, etc., etc. of all purchased patterns.

    The ruffles are definitely more girly – but so are you. Sewn in a boucle the ruffles would not put me in mind of a child’s jacket. I would change them out for a wide cuff but then again I’m probably twice your age.

    Don’t forget to check the selvage edge of your fabric. Often boucle’s have a beautiful selvage that can be used as the edge of the garment, hem, or ( a la Chanel) pocket edges.

    Sew on!

  48. Canal Couture November 3, 2014 at 3:24 pm #

    Interesting topic and I loved reading all the different points of view! I put quite some value on my boyfriends opinion regarding flattery of a particular shape. I think he has a better eye for it than me. I do like to experiment with different styles, within the boundaries of what flatters me. When I’m unsure if something will suit me I try to find a similar item in RTW and try it on. Personally I love the first top and think the second will be a bit more tricky to pull off. But that shouldn’t stop you from having fun with your clothes!

  49. Janet November 3, 2014 at 3:26 pm #

    Wow, my guy would never say he hates anything I wear or make. He encourages my desire to have my garment be an expression of who I am at the moment. He also knows better than to say such a strong comment when I am excited about something, that isn’t very supportive. I agree with what Dawn said in the comments. Then there is a whole other conversation about conventional flattery – what is it? And who makes those rules anyway?

  50. Splintersnstitches November 3, 2014 at 3:41 pm #

    Oh man, have I ever! Ha! Usually though, he’s right–if he doesn’t like it, I end up not liking it either. But then again, some of the things he likes I don’t like and don’t wear too…

    Personally, I would agree with your hubby on that shirt. But I am as strong-willed as they come, so I can see why you would do it just to say that you did.

  51. Grace November 3, 2014 at 3:47 pm #

    My husband is always supportive but honest of my sewing. If it doesn’t look right, he says it straight, and then it becomes indoor/manual labour wear if I agree. My mom on the other hand, has hated every piece I’ve made bar one shirt. So I get all the honest negativity I need there! Basically, my sewing motto is think of what you’ll wear and then sew something a little different that you like. That seems to be realistic (knowing that I’d probably wear it) and yet expand my wardrobe (since its still a little different). The cute crop top 2 piece look that was in, so not me. I know that no matter how gorgeous it looks and the pride I’d take in the fitting and finish, I’d never put it on. So I made it as a longer shell and a fluffy skirt. Great for work, and for play, but most on all, used!

  52. Andrea November 3, 2014 at 4:58 pm #

    Hah! Definitely! One particular dress that I made for a Christmas function never saw the light of day after the initial photograph when dh claimed it looked like a superhero costume!..http://fabricepiphanies.blogspot.co.nz/2013/12/just-super.html

  53. Linda November 3, 2014 at 7:17 pm #

    I would make it … In a fabric that was soft and flowing, not stiff like your muslin looks. I am sure if I liked the finished results, I’d be happy wearing it and he would like it on me. I don’t think my husband can imagine what it is going to look like when finished!

  54. Lee November 3, 2014 at 7:27 pm #

    There are millions and millions of things we can make at any given time. Out of that universe, many of them will be beautiful and perfect, which still gives you more options than you could ever have time to complete. Why not find garments you both agree on and focus your energy on sewing those?

  55. MTangel November 3, 2014 at 7:28 pm #

    Hmm. I really prefer the first top as well, but maybe because I’m not very fashion forward, plus I know I wouldn’t look good in a boxy top. Do you have some sale fabric you can try that top in, in case you end up not liking it?

    As much as I like looking as clothes and fabric, I’m not very good at being fashionable and pulling together amazing outfits. I generally don’t mind when people tell me something doesn’t look good on me, except they don’t say anything until I’m getting rid of the offending item! Case in point: when I mentioned wanting new dress shoes for high school graduation (years ago), my mom said rather forcefully “Finally! I hate those things you’ve been wearing, they look awful!” Gee, thanks for telling me that after I wore them for two years!

  56. Michelle November 3, 2014 at 9:24 pm #

    Since most of my sewing is directed to my 2 teenage daughters, my husband is usually pretty complimentary as he knows how much work it takes. I’m critical enough for the both of us. My sister who sews is the one that I turn to for fashion advice.

    As for the boxy top, maybe try giving it some shape with darts. You have nothing to lose & maybe the top of your dreams to gain.

  57. CJ November 3, 2014 at 10:19 pm #

    My husband has definite opinions about what I sew. His tastes run very conservative in both fabric & pattern choices. For instance, he prefers solid colors to prints or plaids. He has very definite ideas of what he considers appropriate for a woman of my age & figure. (I’m just a few months from 50, with a “mature” figure, short waist & generous bosom.)

    So far, he has been most vocal about skirts. IHO, my skirts should be pencil or A-line, ending at the bottom of the knee cap. He does not consider fuller skirts at all flattering, and adding a belt to “define the waist” as many do just makes it worse! (Short thick waist+generous bosom+belt = VERY unflattering silhouette!)

    IHO, I’m too old for any skirt above the knee (I happen to agree). He believes short skirts (especially if those mid-thigh or above) should only be worn by young women over the age 18 and under the age of 30, or “hot” women under the age of 40. Everyone else should have the sense to dress appropriately for their age! (Young girls should be more modest, and older women should know better!)

    I’ll leave my personal opinions on his personal opinions out of this… :-)

  58. Maree November 3, 2014 at 10:47 pm #

    At lest half of what I make, my husband moans about my choice. It could be the shape, fabric or it’s just tooooo colourful for him. He now says, never show me anything that’s not finished as he just does not get my vision.. He doesn’t like it all when its completed his option does change but one of my latest creations – my ‘joesph dress’ he has declared he nor the dog want to be seen out with me in my ‘joesph dress’. For fear they will be laughter at. ( it’s very bright)
    Make it and wear it! You could be surprised by a change of heart as not everyone see our vision in mid production.

  59. Amanda Renea November 3, 2014 at 11:46 pm #

    Unfortunately, my husband hates my Gabriola Skirt (you can see it on my site). He says I look amish or something in it. However, I love it. It’s in a beautiful bright red linen and so comfy. So, to compromise, I wear it whenever I’m going out for girls’ night or something with my mom or friends and I won’t be seeing him.

    I’m not a fan of the boxy tops as I seem to have a figure similar to yours and generally wear fitted tops. But, if you like it, make it for you and where it whenever you want!

  60. Ellen November 4, 2014 at 5:39 am #

    Maybe if your husband had not seen the off-the-shoulder top in the same visit he would have been more open minded to the boxy top. I think it is human nature to have a preference given choices.

    It sounds like your gut reaction to the design was joy — for that reason alone I think you should follow through. And for what it’s worth, I think it’s darling too.

    • Tasia November 4, 2014 at 3:32 pm #

      Interesting theory. I may have presented it as an ‘either or’ situation inadvertently!

  61. Kathleen November 4, 2014 at 6:39 am #

    Harumph! I made a dress during the summer that I found wonderful. It was a soft floral knit, perfect for the 11 hours of air travel it took to journey from Arkansas to Portland, Oregon. I was so excited and couldn’t wait to show my handsome husband. He, however, gave me that look. You know, the one that says, “Really?” Sadly, I was so influenced by that look I’ve never been able to wear the dress. By the way, I’d say go for the off-the-shoulder top but seriously, ditch the short one. Just my humble two cents…

    • Tasia November 4, 2014 at 3:31 pm #

      I appreciate the humble two cents! And I know that look, so well.. Also the glazed-over look when I excitedly describe new yarn or fabric. :)

  62. Sara A. November 4, 2014 at 6:54 am #

    I like to reverse fitting advice sometimes. Boxy on the top for a pear shape will balance a shapely bottom. Pair it with cigarette pants and it’s effortless chic. More fun, pair it with a ridiculous circle skirt and crinoline for a vintage resort look. The boxy top reminds me of late 50s/early 60s fashion.

  63. Ali November 4, 2014 at 8:50 am #

    I struggle with the same thing– I usually wear fitted things because I’m afraid with my wide hips anything boxy will make me look frumpy or larger than I am. But sometimes I want to wear something boxy!

  64. Nilla November 4, 2014 at 11:47 am #

    I think you should go for it! You won’t know if you like it until you’ve tried, and it’s not like that top will cost a lot of money or take hundreds of hours to sew. They’re only clothes, have fun with it! I sew things my boyfriend dislikes all the time, in fact sometimes if I’m on the fence about something I’ll ask his opinion only to make sure that he disagrees with me and then I know I’ll do it my way for sure :D Don’t get me wrong, he has great taste in clothes, but sometimes he’s a bit too optimistic as to what I can pull off regarding my body shape!

  65. Heather November 4, 2014 at 2:40 pm #

    I love this post! My husband is very supportive of most of the things that I make but the ones he doesn’t like truly don’t look flattering on me anyway. I value his honest feedback and he is very good at telling me what works with my shape and what doesn’t. The only thing we disagree on are tops with rounded collars which I love and he says very unflattering things about! I like what Mr. Sewaholic said about your tops because I think he is right! The first one is very flattering as it is more form fitting and shows off the shoulders. For some reason, I am in love with Audrey Hepburn’s style of which I was reminded when you mentioned the slim pants underneath the boxier tops. I have no idea why this attracts me because it’s definitely not a good look for me. I think you could still pull off the second top over slim pants because there isn’t much that doesn’t look good on you but it still may be the difference between “stunning” and just “nice.” Thanks for sharing! By the way, what do you use to do your muslins? Actual muslin?

    • Tasia November 4, 2014 at 3:08 pm #

      Yes, actual muslin! Usually the cheapest variety, and often I recut large muslins into pieces of smaller muslins. :)
      Thanks for the feedback! I definitely aim to take my clothing up a notch, I like your mention of the difference between ‘stunning’ and ‘just OK’ as that’s what I feel about these two garments. One is obviously flattering, I love it right away, and it gets good feedback from the people around me! It’s way more likely to be on the stunning end, than the one where I’m unsure about it and so are most people I ask. :)

  66. Chris Griffin November 4, 2014 at 5:27 pm #

    I recently ripped a zipper out of a dress because my husband told me it was the only part of the dress worth saving. He called it the paper towel dress….

  67. Sue November 4, 2014 at 5:47 pm #

    My husband is a dear, and both he and our son (27) are fantastic to ask, “A or B? The sleeve on the left side or the right side?” I don’t tell them in advance which I like, but almost every single time they pick the choice I think is best (yay!).

    After working and working to taper the sides of a slim skirt and make them symmetrical, I finally realized that my sewing was fine–my left thigh is bigger than my right. Probably been that way for 40 years, but I never noticed. My son kept telling me that the skirt wasn’t the same on both sides. Somehow I couldn’t see because I wanted it to look right (sigh).

  68. Katie November 5, 2014 at 2:33 pm #

    My husband actually has really good taste in clothes and generally knows what is on trend, so if he really doesn’t like something, I tend to listen to him. Also, while I do sew for me, I also am cognizant of the fact that it’s other people who look at me, and primarily him! I like to wear things that he likes and thinks are attractive.

  69. Eliza-sew-little November 6, 2014 at 3:23 pm #

    Funnily enough I made a very similar top from March Burda that was also unpopular with DH. While it’s not my favourite top on me I always get lots of compliments and enjoy wearing something different to my usual style.

  70. Charlotte November 7, 2014 at 2:08 am #

    My partner regularly tells me I have ‘tacky’ taste in fabric. It inspires me to pick more dramatic fabric in revenge;)

  71. Sarah November 7, 2014 at 3:19 am #

    I love it! It´s super feminine and I am picturing it with boyfriend jeans or with a pencil skirt. Do it in a black heavier but smooth material that will give it nice form (sorry I´m bad with names of fabric) and you can wear for going out at night to a nice dinner.

  72. Ellie November 7, 2014 at 9:18 am #

    Funnily enough, my immediate answer when I read this post a few days ago was ‘no, he has never really said that’, and then today when working on my most recent skirt his comment was ‘I’m not sure, it looks a little bit like curtain fabric’. I wasn’t sure about the fabric either (its a strange geometric/aztec pattern stripe in chocolate brown and light blue) so now I am really unsure. I was taking a style risk, but now I am not sure at all. I will wear it to work and get a consensus there – if I don’t wear it the fabric was dirt cheap, so no great loss, and I think I want to make the pattern again (the style received approval) and it has been a bit troublesome, so worst case it is a wearable muslin.

  73. Terry Kretzmer November 7, 2014 at 1:13 pm #

    Wow, lots of varied responses. I would say sew and wear what you like. I imagine when you wear the boxy one with a pant or skirt with higher waist it will still show off your curves.

  74. Krista November 7, 2014 at 3:22 pm #

    This is a hilarious question. If I followed my husband’s advice on clothing I would end up freezing cold and possibly with a ticket for indecent exposure. He does like it when I wear athletic tights though. Also, the blouse I’ve made that he hates the most is the one I get the most compliments on.

  75. Ginger November 7, 2014 at 7:20 pm #

    Oh boy, my husband hates about half of what I make! I just go ahead and make and wear whatever I feel like. :) But even he admits that the more he hates something, the more I’ll get compliments from girlfriends and even strangers.

  76. Alia November 9, 2014 at 11:22 pm #

    I like to sew headbands and bags. maybe its small and I don’t have to worry about the size. I tried to sew my own clothes but never fit me well. Still trying until now. My husband and I always have different opinion. So whatever I sew, I never ask him what’s his opinion. If he saw what I sew and he likes it, he will give me a good comment. If he don’t say anything, I know he don’t like it.

  77. Jennifer November 11, 2014 at 5:04 pm #

    I don’t sew often, but I have purchased things that my significant other nearly hated. I knew he loathed a certain shirt before I bought it, and I wore it anyway because the garment was TOTALLY my style and felt honest to wear. What did that tell me? It told me that my significant other didn’t really like that side of me, and within a few months he broke up with me. Guess what?! A beautiful, confident man at work TOTALLY loved that shirt (and side of me) and it turned out we are way more naturally compatible than me and my significant other ever were. So, I’m a big believer in wearing what feels honest. I also believe in paying attention to what suits our body shape and coloring, and to read books or watch shows if necessary. Fashion trends, however, don’t even show up on my radar. Good Luck!

  78. June November 17, 2014 at 11:47 am #

    Skimmed through the comments and didn’t see this remark – when I show hubby something that I’ve sewn, he always says something like “Hey, that’s really nice, but I prefer you naked.” ;)

  79. Annika December 30, 2014 at 12:32 am #

    I haven’t made anything he hasn’t liked yet, but my boyfriend has seen my more…unusual patterns that he definitely hates. (But I’ll make them anyway. :P)

  80. Heidi January 12, 2015 at 9:34 am #

    My husband hates pretty much everything I sew. He’s highly artistic, and we have extremely differing opinions over what is and is not worth sewing (pattern) and what will and will not look good (material & pattern both).

    At one time, prior to knowing him, I would piece quilts as a way to de-stress. He was so vocal about how things should look that I stopped piecing quilts because I was lackingin self-confidence. I ended up stopping my sewing altogether in fact due to a military move and not having my machine etc. We moved back, my machine remained packed away until recently when, after 3-yrs of marriage, I finally realized that he doesn’t have to like what I do in my hobby-time… that this is my time, and that I’m saving us money by sewing my quilts and clothing for myself & our children.

    In my opinion?? Take your partners opinion for what it’s worth, but don’t change your style too much because men are generally kind of stuck in their ways. They don’t like change… but at the same time, don’t allow his opinion to influence you to the point that you lose confidence in yourself. If you want to sew something, do it. Give it away as a gift to someone and explain it was a tester or something along that line. A lot of people (around me at least) love to get stuff for free. And from what I’ve seen of your skills, you’re talented.

  81. Allan Wafkowski April 28, 2015 at 4:44 pm #

    I’ve seen many garments sewn that should never be on the body it was sewn for. Because something looks great on the model on the pattern envelope does not mean it is for everyone. Most (IMHO) problems are created by sewing too small. Loosening the garment in many cases is the fix. Body confidence is an issue too, if you need to sew bombshell, sew bombshell, don’t I think bombshell and sew grandma in an attempt to make it fit ones less than bombshell body type. Also,choosing a pattern that would have been cute when one was 20 years old may not be appropriate at 40. Puff sleeves may be just what Anne of Green Gables needed, but most women don’t look wonderful in puffy, frilly garments.

    As a male sewer I would never say these things in person. Who has the heart to tell a woman who has spent 10 weekends on a garment that it is not for her?

  82. Serrin January 28, 2016 at 3:45 pm #

    If my partner doesn’t like something I ask specific questions about why. So I know he never likes prints for example, and I can disregard that because I love them. I also find it has to be completely finished, if I haven’t hemmed it yet then he can’t see past that but doesn’t always know why he doesn’t like it. As soon as it’s hemmed he suddenly likes it!

    Men are generally very fashion conservative and ignorant, so you have to help them understand what they don’t like and why.

    If he hates it just because it’s colourful (as opposed to unflattering) I take it off the “date night” list but otherwise wear it whenever I like. :)

    He never complains about my sewing mess-in fact when he asked me to move in with him he offered me a whole room for sewing to sweeten the deal, because I had a separate room at my home. I think he knew it would be a deal breaker if I had to go back to using the kitchen table like the old days before I had my own place!

  83. Serrin January 28, 2016 at 3:48 pm #

    ps, I should note that while men are often fashion conservative and ignorant, they are usually spot on with style. So they are good at spotting an unflattering shape, but not all can explain why it’s unflattering.

    If you follow a man’s opinions, you’ll probably always end up looking good, but not always that interesting.

    Food for thought when assessing whether their opinion matters to you :)

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